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Father’s Day and the essence of fatherhood

Father’s Day and the essence of fatherhood

By

abiodun KOMOLAFE


Image by Vecteezy

Tomorrow, Sunday, June 16, is ‘Father’s Day 2024!’ Father’s Day, which began as a largely religious observance and recognized in some way dating back to the Middle Ages, is now celebrated in more than 111 countries, with the first of its kind on June 19, 1910.


A traditional Roman Catholic holiday to celebrate fatherhood, Father’s Day is “celebrated on the third Sunday in June each year.” Fairly clearly, the day is meant to recall and recognize the endless efforts, initiatives and contributions of all the fathers around us. It is a mark of the kinship, affection, guidance and patience between fathers on the one hand and their families on the other.


Fathers are the heads of, and the role models for the(ir) families. Even in psychological explanations, it is the father figures who set the moral tones of households. Whenever irritants attempt to test the loyalty of the household, it is the father who risks everything with truly solidified violations to display manly attributes.


Etymologically, ‘husband’ also arose from the word ‘cultivate’, ‘tend’, or ‘nurture’. Therefore, the concept of husband refers to the ‘male head of a household’, the ‘manager’ and the ‘steward’. He is the ‘master of a house’, ‘occupier and tiller of the soil’. Thus, a husband is one who nurtures the wife with pious love, cultivates the wife and family, and tills the soil of the family.


Fathers are no little men. Of course, they are too big to be small. They have muscles in their places with which they not only perform feats of impressiveness but also create new, bigger and stronger foundations for their children. So, it’s only a marginalized group of men that can actually be referred to as irresponsible as most men are struggling. But we know that they can do better!


For quite some time, there has been a lot of negative portrayal of fathers and husbands. But what does an ideal father or husband look like? To begin with, the concept of father actually arises from the Almighty God as Creator. So, every human father is only a derivative, a copy and a limited expression of the ‘Olódùmarè’ (the Creator, Cause and Origin of all Things), ‘Baba wa tí mbe lí òrun’ (Our Father, who art in heaven), the One who’s so compassionate that He gave His only begotten Son to die for us.


In an article, ‘Appreciating a responsible father’, I described a father as “an important source of a child’s genetic makeup” and “his or her first teacher” and that “a father loves his child and provides for him or her as a precious jewel.” Since “children are a heritage from the Lord”, I wrote that “a good father prays for his children and engages them in deep, heart-to-heart conversations that impart more than facts, but teach wisdom.” Fathers are “expected to study and teach God’s Word to their children.” What’s more? “God blesses the children through their fathers.”


According to Wade Boggs, “anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad”. It is interesting to note that many people do have fond memories of their fathers – how their fathers loved, taught, even corrected identified misdemeanors so that they might live well. In remembering my father, Sunday Alaba Komolafe, who died on August 11, 2020 and was buried on September 11, 2020, comparisons are obvious. On a day like this, I remember my father as the one who “gave us (his children) partnership and protection” and as “a peacemaker whose life depicted concrete evidence of an organized future.” Close to 4 years after, I still find it difficult to accept that I have lost ‘Baba Kayode', as my dad was fondly called, to the wild, wicked hands of death at 92! Well, it is well!


Of course, there have been many lame-brains who pretend to be fathers. But then, that does not mean that they are in the majority! Surely certainly, the drunken and the incestuous fathers, wife beaters and deadbeat fathers are in a small minority. Fish or cut bait, we are in a culture where fathers are supposed to be providers, and many people who go into marriage take that aspect of matrimony seriously. So, they will not just abandon those God-given responsibilities only to pursue a career in drinking.


Talking about the African patriarchal culture where some men act as if they own their wives, it must also be noted that the overwhelming majority of men are alive and accountable to their responsibilities. So, Father’s Day is a day to celebrate the ideal father! It is a day to also say that those who are irresponsible most probably came from dysfunctional families where they never had good role models and that they’re only transferring their wounds to the people they got married to or the children they gave birth to!


For their efforts, men need to be encouraged, especially at a time like this when the majority of our men are on the verge of social and mental collapse. In a country where hunger and deprivation are already busting the people’s asses, where the prevailing inflation rate is stifling and asphyxiating, and where many Nigerians are dead before their death, this is not the time to be excoriating or burlesquing fathers.


Yes, times are tough and things are hard! However, men should also avoid taking out their frustrations on their families because we are all in it together! Besides, it is in the nature of man to be persevering, courageous, “stay positive and look for solutions”, just as Caleb and Joshua did when they were asked to spy out the Land of Canaan. For men therefore, this is the time to make sacrifices which, in every possible way, are instinctual for the adult male. In a word, Father’s Day is meant to call for investment, training and retraining, forming and reforming of boys for the critical work of being fathers in the future.


In the past 20 to 30 years, there have been many programmes for the girl child. Actually, 90% of the Funding/Donor Agencies would always tell the world that their programmes were for the woman and/or the girl but there has been very little, if any, for the boy child and young men. We have Ministries of Women Affairs that focus on the woman and the girl child but none to cater for the needs of the boy child and/or young men. In the past, traditional societies also had progammes for initiating boys into adulthood. Lamentably, we’ve lost that and there’s nothing in place to replace it! A few workshops and youth programmes for the boys here and there but that’s not enough!


All said, it’s time well-meaning individuals, private organizations, corporate agencies and religious organizations started programmes aimed at transforming boys into men and young men into husbands, with all the accompanying values and virtues, if we do not want to have beasts and abusive husbands in the future. In a world that derives its oxygen from narcotics and human sacrifices and where brothers are afraid of becoming fathers for obvious reasons, the boy child needs something that will actually lead young men to grow into manhood.


Tragically, Nigeria is stagnated because there haven’t been father figures of the types that she had some 50 to 60 years ago. Is it any wonder why moral re-armament has become a scarce commodity in our clime?


May the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world, give us peace in our time!


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 _•08098614418 - SMS only._ 

By

abiodun KOMOLAFE


Image by Vecteezy

Tomorrow, Sunday, June 16, is ‘Father’s Day 2024!’ Father’s Day, which began as a largely religious observance and recognized in some way dating back to the Middle Ages, is now celebrated in more than 111 countries, with the first of its kind on June 19, 1910.


A traditional Roman Catholic holiday to celebrate fatherhood, Father’s Day is “celebrated on the third Sunday in June each year.” Fairly clearly, the day is meant to recall and recognize the endless efforts, initiatives and contributions of all the fathers around us. It is a mark of the kinship, affection, guidance and patience between fathers on the one hand and their families on the other.


Fathers are the heads of, and the role models for the(ir) families. Even in psychological explanations, it is the father figures who set the moral tones of households. Whenever irritants attempt to test the loyalty of the household, it is the father who risks everything with truly solidified violations to display manly attributes.


Etymologically, ‘husband’ also arose from the word ‘cultivate’, ‘tend’, or ‘nurture’. Therefore, the concept of husband refers to the ‘male head of a household’, the ‘manager’ and the ‘steward’. He is the ‘master of a house’, ‘occupier and tiller of the soil’. Thus, a husband is one who nurtures the wife with pious love, cultivates the wife and family, and tills the soil of the family.


Fathers are no little men. Of course, they are too big to be small. They have muscles in their places with which they not only perform feats of impressiveness but also create new, bigger and stronger foundations for their children. So, it’s only a marginalized group of men that can actually be referred to as irresponsible as most men are struggling. But we know that they can do better!


For quite some time, there has been a lot of negative portrayal of fathers and husbands. But what does an ideal father or husband look like? To begin with, the concept of father actually arises from the Almighty God as Creator. So, every human father is only a derivative, a copy and a limited expression of the ‘Olódùmarè’ (the Creator, Cause and Origin of all Things), ‘Baba wa tí mbe lí òrun’ (Our Father, who art in heaven), the One who’s so compassionate that He gave His only begotten Son to die for us.


In an article, ‘Appreciating a responsible father’, I described a father as “an important source of a child’s genetic makeup” and “his or her first teacher” and that “a father loves his child and provides for him or her as a precious jewel.” Since “children are a heritage from the Lord”, I wrote that “a good father prays for his children and engages them in deep, heart-to-heart conversations that impart more than facts, but teach wisdom.” Fathers are “expected to study and teach God’s Word to their children.” What’s more? “God blesses the children through their fathers.”


According to Wade Boggs, “anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad”. It is interesting to note that many people do have fond memories of their fathers – how their fathers loved, taught, even corrected identified misdemeanors so that they might live well. In remembering my father, Sunday Alaba Komolafe, who died on August 11, 2020 and was buried on September 11, 2020, comparisons are obvious. On a day like this, I remember my father as the one who “gave us (his children) partnership and protection” and as “a peacemaker whose life depicted concrete evidence of an organized future.” Close to 4 years after, I still find it difficult to accept that I have lost ‘Baba Kayode', as my dad was fondly called, to the wild, wicked hands of death at 92! Well, it is well!


Of course, there have been many lame-brains who pretend to be fathers. But then, that does not mean that they are in the majority! Surely certainly, the drunken and the incestuous fathers, wife beaters and deadbeat fathers are in a small minority. Fish or cut bait, we are in a culture where fathers are supposed to be providers, and many people who go into marriage take that aspect of matrimony seriously. So, they will not just abandon those God-given responsibilities only to pursue a career in drinking.


Talking about the African patriarchal culture where some men act as if they own their wives, it must also be noted that the overwhelming majority of men are alive and accountable to their responsibilities. So, Father’s Day is a day to celebrate the ideal father! It is a day to also say that those who are irresponsible most probably came from dysfunctional families where they never had good role models and that they’re only transferring their wounds to the people they got married to or the children they gave birth to!


For their efforts, men need to be encouraged, especially at a time like this when the majority of our men are on the verge of social and mental collapse. In a country where hunger and deprivation are already busting the people’s asses, where the prevailing inflation rate is stifling and asphyxiating, and where many Nigerians are dead before their death, this is not the time to be excoriating or burlesquing fathers.


Yes, times are tough and things are hard! However, men should also avoid taking out their frustrations on their families because we are all in it together! Besides, it is in the nature of man to be persevering, courageous, “stay positive and look for solutions”, just as Caleb and Joshua did when they were asked to spy out the Land of Canaan. For men therefore, this is the time to make sacrifices which, in every possible way, are instinctual for the adult male. In a word, Father’s Day is meant to call for investment, training and retraining, forming and reforming of boys for the critical work of being fathers in the future.


In the past 20 to 30 years, there have been many programmes for the girl child. Actually, 90% of the Funding/Donor Agencies would always tell the world that their programmes were for the woman and/or the girl but there has been very little, if any, for the boy child and young men. We have Ministries of Women Affairs that focus on the woman and the girl child but none to cater for the needs of the boy child and/or young men. In the past, traditional societies also had progammes for initiating boys into adulthood. Lamentably, we’ve lost that and there’s nothing in place to replace it! A few workshops and youth programmes for the boys here and there but that’s not enough!


All said, it’s time well-meaning individuals, private organizations, corporate agencies and religious organizations started programmes aimed at transforming boys into men and young men into husbands, with all the accompanying values and virtues, if we do not want to have beasts and abusive husbands in the future. In a world that derives its oxygen from narcotics and human sacrifices and where brothers are afraid of becoming fathers for obvious reasons, the boy child needs something that will actually lead young men to grow into manhood.


Tragically, Nigeria is stagnated because there haven’t been father figures of the types that she had some 50 to 60 years ago. Is it any wonder why moral re-armament has become a scarce commodity in our clime?


May the Lamb of God, who takes away the sin of the world, give us peace in our time!


 _•[email protected];_ 

 _•08098614418 - SMS only._ 

Command Your Day Prayer Points For Today Saturday 21st August 2021

Command Your Day Prayer Points For Today Saturday 21st August 2021

BY YOGUNYEMI OLUSEGUN TIMOTHY


PRAY WITH ISAIAH 41:10-13



1 . Sing a new song to the Most-High God.



2. I reject and refuse every negative confession made over my children in Jesus’ name.



3. From every fear of the future, I deliver my children by the blood of Jesus.



4. Every agent of shame working against my children be paralyzed in Jesus’ 

name.



5. Every trap set for me in my place of work catch your owner in Jesus’ name.



6. Anointing of an intercessor, my life is available possess me now in Jesus’ name. Amen


          YORUBA EDITION


1. Korin titun kan si Olorun oga oggo julo.



2. Mo ko beni emi o fe gbogbo ijewo odi lori gbogbo awon omo mi l’oruko Jesu.


3. Lowo gbogbo eru ojo ola, mo tu awon omo mi sile pelu eje Jesu.



4. Gbogbo iranse idojuti ti o nsise lodi si awon omo mi, e yaro l’oruko Jesu.



5. Gbogbo pakute ti a de sile fun mi ni ibi ise mi, mu eni ina ti o de o sile ni oruko Jesu.



6. Ororo isipe, aye wa ni ipese fun o gbe mi wo nisinsinyi l’oruko Jesu. Amin


   Jesus is Lord no controversy.

BY YOGUNYEMI OLUSEGUN TIMOTHY


PRAY WITH ISAIAH 41:10-13



1 . Sing a new song to the Most-High God.



2. I reject and refuse every negative confession made over my children in Jesus’ name.



3. From every fear of the future, I deliver my children by the blood of Jesus.



4. Every agent of shame working against my children be paralyzed in Jesus’ 

name.



5. Every trap set for me in my place of work catch your owner in Jesus’ name.



6. Anointing of an intercessor, my life is available possess me now in Jesus’ name. Amen


          YORUBA EDITION


1. Korin titun kan si Olorun oga oggo julo.



2. Mo ko beni emi o fe gbogbo ijewo odi lori gbogbo awon omo mi l’oruko Jesu.


3. Lowo gbogbo eru ojo ola, mo tu awon omo mi sile pelu eje Jesu.



4. Gbogbo iranse idojuti ti o nsise lodi si awon omo mi, e yaro l’oruko Jesu.



5. Gbogbo pakute ti a de sile fun mi ni ibi ise mi, mu eni ina ti o de o sile ni oruko Jesu.



6. Ororo isipe, aye wa ni ipese fun o gbe mi wo nisinsinyi l’oruko Jesu. Amin


   Jesus is Lord no controversy.

Parenting: Teach your children these important words

Parenting: Teach your children these important words

Things you need to teach your Child(ren) at early age:



1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone's laps no matter the situation including uncles.


2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.


3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as 'my wife' or 'my husband'


4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.


5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.


6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.


7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don't, the society will teach them the wrong values.


8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like.

Things you need to teach your Child(ren) at early age:



1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone's laps no matter the situation including uncles.


2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.


3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as 'my wife' or 'my husband'


4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.


5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.


6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.


7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don't, the society will teach them the wrong values.


8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like.

Keren-Happuch's Death: The family needs justice but the school is trying to cover it up

Keren-Happuch's Death: The family needs justice but the school is trying to cover it up

Keren-Happuch Aondodoo

The girl in the above picture is 12 year old Keren-Happuch Aondodoo Akpagher a Boarding student of Premiere Academy Lugbe, Abuja who died on 22/06/21. 


According to the account, on 16/06/21, she couldn't walk from the hostel to class and had to be helped by her friends to write her test in tears.   On Saturday 19/06/21, she complained that she had an eye infection and called her mother to be picked for medical attention. 


The school would not release her but transported her to the clinic where her mother met her and facilitated her treatment. Aondodoo was distraught when she learnt she would be going back to the school. Her mother  called  and texted the principal and the matron for over four hours asking for them to release her but they refused  initially saying she will have to stay in isolation for seven days on her return. But they finally allowed her to follow her mother home. 


Her mother who initially was not keen on taking her that Saturday 19/06/21 changed her mind when her school mother informed her that Aondodoo couldn’t walk to school on the 16/6/21 and was supported by two friends to write her test in tears. On getting home with her mother on the 19/06/21, she took I’ll on Sunday night and was rushed to Queens Clinic, Wuse, Abuja, on Monday,  a discharge was observed from her vagina and was found to be condom after a lab test. Her urine test revealed dead spermatozoa and she died early hours of Tuesday from hyperglycemia triggered by sepsis resulting from the infection caused by the condom in her.


The family needs justice as the school is trying to cover it up please.

Keren-Happuch Aondodoo

The girl in the above picture is 12 year old Keren-Happuch Aondodoo Akpagher a Boarding student of Premiere Academy Lugbe, Abuja who died on 22/06/21. 


According to the account, on 16/06/21, she couldn't walk from the hostel to class and had to be helped by her friends to write her test in tears.   On Saturday 19/06/21, she complained that she had an eye infection and called her mother to be picked for medical attention. 


The school would not release her but transported her to the clinic where her mother met her and facilitated her treatment. Aondodoo was distraught when she learnt she would be going back to the school. Her mother  called  and texted the principal and the matron for over four hours asking for them to release her but they refused  initially saying she will have to stay in isolation for seven days on her return. But they finally allowed her to follow her mother home. 


Her mother who initially was not keen on taking her that Saturday 19/06/21 changed her mind when her school mother informed her that Aondodoo couldn’t walk to school on the 16/6/21 and was supported by two friends to write her test in tears. On getting home with her mother on the 19/06/21, she took I’ll on Sunday night and was rushed to Queens Clinic, Wuse, Abuja, on Monday,  a discharge was observed from her vagina and was found to be condom after a lab test. Her urine test revealed dead spermatozoa and she died early hours of Tuesday from hyperglycemia triggered by sepsis resulting from the infection caused by the condom in her.


The family needs justice as the school is trying to cover it up please.

OPEN HEAVENS DAILY DEVOTIONAL DATE: THURSDAY 27TH MAY 2021 THEME: THEY BELONG TO GOD

OPEN HEAVENS DAILY DEVOTIONAL DATE: THURSDAY 27TH MAY 2021 THEME: THEY BELONG TO GOD

THEME: THEY BELONG TO GOD

  

MEMORISE:

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is His reward. Psalm 127:3

 

READ: Psalm 127: 3-5

3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is His reward.

4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.

5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.


MESSAGE:



As we see in today’s Bible reading, God owns all children. I know this because when God created Adam and Eve, He later pronounced blessings upon them so they could multiply and be fruitful. He did this so He would not have to go through the same process as when He created them, all over again. Thus, the product of the union of the first family God created became His own reward. It therefore, follows that anyone who claims to own a child is exhibiting ignorance. Exodus 2:9 where the daughter of Pharoah said: “…Take this child away, and nurse it for me, and I will give thee thy wages….” Is a case in point.


God is generous to the point of giving us children who, in all respects, belong to Him. He also promises us rewards if we nurse them for Him and not ourselves. It is sad that today many parents nurture God’s children “to promote the name of the family” or “to carry on the family custom!” These ones think those children belong to them; they miss it and will be rewarded accordingly. There was a woman who spent all her life earnings, training her son to be ‘great’ without teaching him the way of the Lord. The son eventually turned his back against her, due to his lack of the fear of the Lord. What a negative reward!


How then should a child be trained? Proverbs 22:6 says: 

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”


Proverbs 9:10 also says “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.”


This means “that the knowledge of the holy is found in God’s word”. Psalm 119:97-98 says:

“O how love I thy law! it is my meditation all the day. Thou through Thy commandments hast made me wiser than mine enemies: for they are ever with me.” 


In light of these Bible verse, we see that God’s will is for parents to train their children in the fear of the Lord through the word of God, and not fables. Psalm 19:7 says:

“The law of the LORD is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the LORD is sure, making wise the simple.”


PRAYER POINT:

Ask God to take care of His children in the church. Ask God to bless every couple waiting for the fruit of the womb, nine months from today, in Jesus’ name.

 

HYMNAL: GOD GIVE US CHRISTIAN HOMES

1. God give us Christian homes!

Homes where the Bible is loved and taught,

Homes where the Master’s will is sought,

Homes crowned with beauty Your love has wrought;

God give us Christian homes;

God give us Christian homes!


2. God give us Christian homes!

Homes where the father is true and strong,

Homes that are free from the blight of wrong,

Homes that are joyous with love and song;

God give us Christian homes;

God give us Christian homes!


3. God give us Christian homes!

Homes where the mother, in caring quest,

Strives to show others Your way is best,

Homes where the Lord is an honoured guest;

God give us Christian homes;

God give us Christian homes!


4. God give us Christian homes!

Homes where the children are led to know

Christ in His beauty who loves them so,

Homes where the altar fires burn and glow;

God give us Christian homes;

God give us Christian homes!


BIBLE IN ONE YEAR: 

1 Timothy 1-6  

AUTHOR: PASTOR E. A. ADEBOYE

THEME: THEY BELONG TO GOD

  

MEMORISE:

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is His reward. Psalm 127:3

 

READ: Psalm 127: 3-5

3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is His reward.

4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.

5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.


MESSAGE:



As we see in today’s Bible reading, God owns all children. I know this because when God created Adam and Eve, He later pronounced blessings upon them so they could multiply and be fruitful. He did this so He would not have to go through the same process as when He created them, all over again. Thus, the product of the union of the first family God created became His own reward. It therefore, follows that anyone who claims to own a child is exhibiting ignorance. Exodus 2:9 where the daughter of Pharoah said: “…Take this child away, and nurse it for me, and I will give thee thy wages….” Is a case in point.


God is generous to the point of giving us children who, in all respects, belong to Him. He also promises us rewards if we nurse them for Him and not ourselves. It is sad that today many parents nurture God’s children “to promote the name of the family” or “to carry on the family custom!” These ones think those children belong to them; they miss it and will be rewarded accordingly. There was a woman who spent all her life earnings, training her son to be ‘great’ without teaching him the way of the Lord. The son eventually turned his back against her, due to his lack of the fear of the Lord. What a negative reward!


How then should a child be trained? Proverbs 22:6 says: 

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”


Proverbs 9:10 also says “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.”


This means “that the knowledge of the holy is found in God’s word”. Psalm 119:97-98 says:

“O how love I thy law! it is my meditation all the day. Thou through Thy commandments hast made me wiser than mine enemies: for they are ever with me.” 


In light of these Bible verse, we see that God’s will is for parents to train their children in the fear of the Lord through the word of God, and not fables. Psalm 19:7 says:

“The law of the LORD is perfect, converting the soul: the testimony of the LORD is sure, making wise the simple.”


PRAYER POINT:

Ask God to take care of His children in the church. Ask God to bless every couple waiting for the fruit of the womb, nine months from today, in Jesus’ name.

 

HYMNAL: GOD GIVE US CHRISTIAN HOMES

1. God give us Christian homes!

Homes where the Bible is loved and taught,

Homes where the Master’s will is sought,

Homes crowned with beauty Your love has wrought;

God give us Christian homes;

God give us Christian homes!


2. God give us Christian homes!

Homes where the father is true and strong,

Homes that are free from the blight of wrong,

Homes that are joyous with love and song;

God give us Christian homes;

God give us Christian homes!


3. God give us Christian homes!

Homes where the mother, in caring quest,

Strives to show others Your way is best,

Homes where the Lord is an honoured guest;

God give us Christian homes;

God give us Christian homes!


4. God give us Christian homes!

Homes where the children are led to know

Christ in His beauty who loves them so,

Homes where the altar fires burn and glow;

God give us Christian homes;

God give us Christian homes!


BIBLE IN ONE YEAR: 

1 Timothy 1-6  

AUTHOR: PASTOR E. A. ADEBOYE

DADDY, MUMMY: AVOID FAMILY PORNOGRAPHY!!!!

DADDY, MUMMY: AVOID FAMILY PORNOGRAPHY!!!!


MUMMY!!


Please Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; Opening your legs for your son to see your inner tight & pant.


DADDY!!


Please Don't wear ordinary boxers at home that you sit

down, Open your legs and your 'thing' is dangling and your

daughter is seeing it.


There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom,

just for your spouse.


Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your

house.


It is not your house alone, it's a family house/home.


You are putting your children into sexual bondage through

these acts.i know you may not understand it but,


MUMMY!


Wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your

sons is dangerous.


No, they won't lust after you. But you might be increasing their

curiosity to see the breasts of ladies out there.


DADDY!


Wearing ordinary Boxers around your house in the presence of

your daughters is dangerous too.


Not that your daughters will lust after you but it makes them to

actually see how the real thing is.


DEAR PARENTS!


Let's stop being 'PORNOGRAPHY MATERIALS' to our children.

Raising sexually pure children, it begins at home.'


As parents, it is still your responsibility to build virtue into your

family.


If your Children are not properly groomed, they may never get

to the top in life, even if you the parents are at the top of your

respective careers.


MANNERS take you to where your education can't irrespective

of your status , money or "who you know".


PLEASE MUMS & DADS, take note of what you just read now.


Don't make mistakes that will bring you pain and sorrow in the

future.


Don't say you are not married, you will soon get married,

please put this into practice.


Remember a child's mind is like a video camera, it records

everything as it sees or hear it. 


A replay of it will tell you the

things you have done how you did or say it.


May God bless you and your wonderful homes.


Author: Anonymous


MUMMY!!


Please Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; Opening your legs for your son to see your inner tight & pant.


DADDY!!


Please Don't wear ordinary boxers at home that you sit

down, Open your legs and your 'thing' is dangling and your

daughter is seeing it.


There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom,

just for your spouse.


Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your

house.


It is not your house alone, it's a family house/home.


You are putting your children into sexual bondage through

these acts.i know you may not understand it but,


MUMMY!


Wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your

sons is dangerous.


No, they won't lust after you. But you might be increasing their

curiosity to see the breasts of ladies out there.


DADDY!


Wearing ordinary Boxers around your house in the presence of

your daughters is dangerous too.


Not that your daughters will lust after you but it makes them to

actually see how the real thing is.


DEAR PARENTS!


Let's stop being 'PORNOGRAPHY MATERIALS' to our children.

Raising sexually pure children, it begins at home.'


As parents, it is still your responsibility to build virtue into your

family.


If your Children are not properly groomed, they may never get

to the top in life, even if you the parents are at the top of your

respective careers.


MANNERS take you to where your education can't irrespective

of your status , money or "who you know".


PLEASE MUMS & DADS, take note of what you just read now.


Don't make mistakes that will bring you pain and sorrow in the

future.


Don't say you are not married, you will soon get married,

please put this into practice.


Remember a child's mind is like a video camera, it records

everything as it sees or hear it. 


A replay of it will tell you the

things you have done how you did or say it.


May God bless you and your wonderful homes.


Author: Anonymous

AND THE CHILD DIED!

AND THE CHILD DIED!

 *To all Parents and Guidance*


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I am sure a number of us have been following the story of the six-year-old boy who was murdered in Kano state on Sunday.


 The child was kidnapped from Kaduna state and taken to Kano where they murdered him after collecting one million naira ransom from his parents.


So pathetic! Is it not? 


But more worrisome are the circumstances surrounding the death of that innocent child.


• The chief suspect among the kidnappers is a neighbor of the late boy’s family.


• This chief suspect sent the boy on an errand to a destination where his partners in crime were already waiting for the innocent child.


• The child went on the errand without telling his parents where he was going to.


• According to the report, the suspects who committed this heinous crime were people who the father of the deceased used to help.


• They killed the boy, even after collecting a ransom from his parents because they were afraid that he might reveal their identity. In other words, the boy knew them.


 *Matters arising:* 


• I will never get tired of warning parents not to trust anybody totally with their child. Teach your children to love and respect everybody but be careful and on alert while relating with people outside their home. Even at home, extended family member, in-laws, domestic servants and family friends should not be trusted, unless tested and proven to be genuine.


• Your child should not be sent on an errand by anybody without your consent. And don’t just give your consent without knowing where they are being sent to. Community life is no longer what it used to be, therefore, be very careful with the people you call friends and/or neighbours.



• Stop the idea of making your child an errand boy/girl to everybody in your neighbourhood. Many children have been sexually molested through that, some were knocked down by a vehicle, while very unfortunate ones like this boy lost their lives.


• For crying out loud, I don’t know why someone should send a six year old child on errand outside the compound where they live. Please don’t allow that, it is not right. 



• If trying to protect your child will earn you bad names from your friends and neighbours, I will suggest that you better answer the bad name than lose your child.


• Understand that no other person can take care of your child the way you do. Therefore, never assume that somebody somewhere is there on your behalf for your children.


• Teach your children to say NO if anybody, no matter who, makes unpleasant demands from them. I talked about this in my new book “The Menace of Pedophiles”. Many children who fall victim to pedophiles were not able to say no when they needed to do so.


• The wave of kidnapping is so high now; sleep with one eye closed while the other eye watches your family members. I don’t know whether you are still comfortable with engaging the services of commercial bike or tricycle riders to take your child to and from school. If I were you, I will stop now.


I rest my case for now.


 May God comfort the family of that innocent child and give them the fortitude to bear their loss. 


 *Shalom!* 


 *©️ Ijeoma Igwesi* 

 *Family Life (Parenting) Coach* 

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 *To all Parents and Guidance*


A profile picture

I am sure a number of us have been following the story of the six-year-old boy who was murdered in Kano state on Sunday.


 The child was kidnapped from Kaduna state and taken to Kano where they murdered him after collecting one million naira ransom from his parents.


So pathetic! Is it not? 


But more worrisome are the circumstances surrounding the death of that innocent child.


• The chief suspect among the kidnappers is a neighbor of the late boy’s family.


• This chief suspect sent the boy on an errand to a destination where his partners in crime were already waiting for the innocent child.


• The child went on the errand without telling his parents where he was going to.


• According to the report, the suspects who committed this heinous crime were people who the father of the deceased used to help.


• They killed the boy, even after collecting a ransom from his parents because they were afraid that he might reveal their identity. In other words, the boy knew them.


 *Matters arising:* 


• I will never get tired of warning parents not to trust anybody totally with their child. Teach your children to love and respect everybody but be careful and on alert while relating with people outside their home. Even at home, extended family member, in-laws, domestic servants and family friends should not be trusted, unless tested and proven to be genuine.


• Your child should not be sent on an errand by anybody without your consent. And don’t just give your consent without knowing where they are being sent to. Community life is no longer what it used to be, therefore, be very careful with the people you call friends and/or neighbours.



• Stop the idea of making your child an errand boy/girl to everybody in your neighbourhood. Many children have been sexually molested through that, some were knocked down by a vehicle, while very unfortunate ones like this boy lost their lives.


• For crying out loud, I don’t know why someone should send a six year old child on errand outside the compound where they live. Please don’t allow that, it is not right. 



• If trying to protect your child will earn you bad names from your friends and neighbours, I will suggest that you better answer the bad name than lose your child.


• Understand that no other person can take care of your child the way you do. Therefore, never assume that somebody somewhere is there on your behalf for your children.


• Teach your children to say NO if anybody, no matter who, makes unpleasant demands from them. I talked about this in my new book “The Menace of Pedophiles”. Many children who fall victim to pedophiles were not able to say no when they needed to do so.


• The wave of kidnapping is so high now; sleep with one eye closed while the other eye watches your family members. I don’t know whether you are still comfortable with engaging the services of commercial bike or tricycle riders to take your child to and from school. If I were you, I will stop now.


I rest my case for now.


 May God comfort the family of that innocent child and give them the fortitude to bear their loss. 


 *Shalom!* 


 *©️ Ijeoma Igwesi* 

 *Family Life (Parenting) Coach* 

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