Parenting: Teach your children these important words

Things you need to teach your Child(ren) at early age:

1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone's laps no matter the situation including uncles.

2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.

3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as 'my wife' or 'my husband'

4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.

6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.

7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don't, the society will teach them the wrong values.

8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like.

NO GUARANTEE OF TOMORROW: THE DEATH OF HER HUSBAND SAVED MY MARRIAGE

THIS WRITE UP WILL BE USEFUL TO MARRIED AND UNMARRIED COUPLES.

Susan attended a funeral service of her friend who lost her husband at Langata Cemetery.

Susan held her wailing friend strongly as the casket was lowered into the freshly dug grave.

Susan's friend was screaming "My husband don't leave me, please, don't leave me!" as people looked on feeling sad for her. 

The children were screaming too. Losing a father is not an easy thing.

If not for Susan, the friend would have thrown herself into the grave to be buried with her husband who died of suicide.  Because, the husband found no meaning in life and he killed himself.

Susan remembered the many times the friend would say she is tired of her good for nothing husband and here she is screaming and feeling lost because the husband is no more. 

The friend cried till she fainted. Susan and the rest people around carry the devasted woman to an ambulance for first aid.

As Susan watched the spectacle of broken hearts crying for a man who will never ever come back, Susan remembered her husband. 

Susan remembered how much she takes her husband for granted.

How she talks to him however she pleases.

How she gives him prolonged silent treatment over issues they can easily resolve.

How she denied him sex many times. And she asked herself "What if it  my husband that is buried today how would I feel?" Susan thought.

Susan remembered that she argued with her husband and he left the house with tension between them just because after all these years, he still leaves his plate in the living room instead of taking it to the sink after eating.

"God forbid that my husband die, but what if as my husband went out in anger and never returns and passes on, is this the last memory I would like my husband and I to have?" She thought again.

Susan began to remember all the wonderful things her husband has done in the past, which she never taught of before except complaining.

Now, in her heart, she begin to appreciates him for all his efforts no matter how small it was.

At that moment, she realise her areas of improvement, and said to herself "there is no other man I would rather share her life with than my loving husband."

She thought of life without him and it scared her. And said, "I would rather have disagreements with my loving husband than to lose him to death. I prefer his sense of humour and laughter than to cry for losing him."

That evening, after Susan took her widowed friend to a safe place, she passed by at the supermarket and bought her husband a card saying "Thank you for being in my life"

And when she got home, she cooked her husband's favourite meal and asked her children to join her in celebrating her husband.

That night, her husband came home expecting a fight from Susan, but instead, he got greeting and hugs from Susan and the children. 

He was welcomed with songs, dancing and laughter, cute drawings of him with warm messages from the children, a home cooked meal, pleasant conversations. And Susan's husband bust into tears when Susan and the children told him how much they love him and then surrounded him to pray for him. 

A grown man cried like a baby because of love. He felt needed and he asked them "Is today father's day?"

Susan looked into his eyes and said, "No, it is lover day. Because, everyday is special with you around me from now on, we will do nothing but love each other. 

I don't know how long we have to live together, but it will not be wasted by fights, misunderstanding, complains and lack of appreciation. 

In case you have forgotten, "I love you"

"I love you too" said Susan's husband as he kissed and hugged Susan, the children dancing and cheering on. 

Children long for a home where mom and dad give each other warmth.

Since then, both Susan and her husband have been a stronger and more loving couple after realizing that tomorrow is not guaranteed.

  

                

~ Sometimes the death of someone wakes us up to the reality of life.

~ Don't let the death of your spouse wake you up to the reality of life, it will be too late.

~ God forbid, if your spouse die today, will you regret how you have been treating him/her?

~ Do you think living alone without your spouse will be joyful to you?

~ Will you be able to transfer your children to another man or woman whom they have not grown to know?

~ If you decide to be a single father or mother, will you be able to do the job alone? 

~ Can you stand the pain of your kids asking why they don't have a father or mother like others?

~ What is it that you cannot mend in your marriage?

~ No doubt its not easy, but prayerfully love your spouse while he/she lives. It rubs on the children as well.

So mend your home, don't destroy it.

This post can save a family, therefore kindly share with others.

PLEASE HUSBAND MAKE SURE YOUR WIFE READ THIS ONE

Source: Social media

Keren-Happuch's Death: The family needs justice but the school is trying to cover it up

Keren-Happuch Aondodoo

The girl in the above picture is 12 year old Keren-Happuch Aondodoo Akpagher a Boarding student of Premiere Academy Lugbe, Abuja who died on 22/06/21. 

According to the account, on 16/06/21, she couldn't walk from the hostel to class and had to be helped by her friends to write her test in tears.   On Saturday 19/06/21, she complained that she had an eye infection and called her mother to be picked for medical attention. 

The school would not release her but transported her to the clinic where her mother met her and facilitated her treatment. Aondodoo was distraught when she learnt she would be going back to the school. Her mother  called  and texted the principal and the matron for over four hours asking for them to release her but they refused  initially saying she will have to stay in isolation for seven days on her return. But they finally allowed her to follow her mother home. 

Her mother who initially was not keen on taking her that Saturday 19/06/21 changed her mind when her school mother informed her that Aondodoo couldn’t walk to school on the 16/6/21 and was supported by two friends to write her test in tears. On getting home with her mother on the 19/06/21, she took I’ll on Sunday night and was rushed to Queens Clinic, Wuse, Abuja, on Monday,  a discharge was observed from her vagina and was found to be condom after a lab test. Her urine test revealed dead spermatozoa and she died early hours of Tuesday from hyperglycemia triggered by sepsis resulting from the infection caused by the condom in her.

The family needs justice as the school is trying to cover it up please.

Husband- A king and Labourer/Commoner

By: Joe Eboigbe Esq.

Some 23 years ago I went to my Father's office to collect monies for some school supplies including books. His Orderly asked that I wait that my Dad was in a certain rush but I had to go back to Ekpoma from Benin the same day so I walked into the office. I saw the rush as he was standing to leave, but seeing me he had to attend to my needs. My father is or was not one who would give you money without justification, so he scrutinised my list and I defended every kobo. Suddenly his doors was pushed open and I heard his loud voice..... Morning Sir, it was his Boss, the Commissioner of Police Edo state.

CP: Mr. Eboigbe you must be an idiot 

Dad: Yes Sir

CP: How dare you keep me waiting, are you normal?

Dad: I am very sorry Sir.

CP: I better not get to my office before you....... and the semi illiterate, poor diction, ill mannered young Man with harsh northern accent went on hurling insults on my Dad, while he stood at attention. 

Without looking at me, my Dad said Son wait for me at home.

Seeing the great Alpha Male, King and Supreme Ruler of his household in that state broke me. My journey back home was tormentous and depressing. 

Later in life I came to my own realities that The King must submit outside his Kingdom to bring bread to the table. 

Today's post is not about my Dad, for the old man has retired and he is enjoying his retirement his own way. 

This post is about the Husband - King and Commoner and an awakening in the hearts of those he fights for.

The only place in the world where a Man is truly a King is his home and as soon as he steps out in search of daily bread he automatically becomes a commoner; he begs, he weeps, he is insulted, sometimes humiliated and humbled. He Kneels before lesser Men, demeaned by Clients, Superiors, Customers, Employers etc. All these he takes undignified but internally proud knowing that it is in and by his submission that bread is guaranteed on the table of his family. He knows that submission is the SURVIVOR'S APPARATUS.

When labour is over, he picks himself up adorning his Kingly Robes and returns to his Kingdom.  

When he returns and if he returns, *those in his kingdom* must help remind him, that here is his kingdom where he reigns supreme, as *Husband, Father and King!*

*Happy Father's Day to All the Father's!*

THE WOUND OF A FATHER: happy Father's Day

A true father goes through many unspeakable experiences to continue to be a father.

When he goes out daily in search of bread for his household, he sustains many mental injuries he does not discuss with his family.* 

*His wife and children may not be able to stand the pains he goes through if he shares it with them.

The insults from his boss, the embarrassment from his customers, the harassment from his superiors, etc. Yet he can't quit.

Most times, when he gets home, he is welcomed with nags and unending requests. He gets blames for not being able to meet up, or for not being able to be like his fellow men.

Hmmmm! He is rarely appreciated for his struggles and push just to keep the family together.

Some men had secretly dipped their hands in so many things they can't discuss with their families. Some have stolen, embezzled and borrowed so much that they live in inexpressible guilts everyday.

A real father can take anything just to keep food on the table for his household.

An adage says''goat sweats but his hair does not let people see his sweat''. Many men are sweating but no one is seeing their sweat because they have a car, a house, a job,etc.

When it comes to celebrating him, it is done casually.

He may not have breasts to breastfeed, yet everyone sucks from his unseen breasts.

He may not carry pregnancy for nine months, but he's always pregnant with family needs.

He may not know how labour pain feels, but his pains are not physical. 

Tears may not be in his eyes but he bleeds from inside when he has no means to put food on the table for his household.

His shout, hostility and moods are not premeditated, they are fallout of what he goes through. So, please understand him.

May God continue to strengthen ALL  FATHERS

 *HAPPY SUNDAY AND FATHERS’ DAY*

SAVE THE GIRL CHILD: CARELESS MOTHERS/PARENTS

IF YOU KNOW YOU CANT TRAIN AND WATCH A FEMALE CHILD GROW UNDER YOUR ROOF TILL 2O YEARS AND ABOVE, WHY THEN DO YOU GIVE BIRTH TO THEM?*

A week ago a 13 year old girl was found pregnant but she didn't know who impregnated her. But I will tell you the truth, she was raped by someone nearby and threatened not to report.

When Doctors conducted tests on her they found she was not a virgin meaning someone had been sexually abusing her.

Just yesterday another story of 13 year old who was staying with her uncle was found raped and killed.

Listen, If a man can remove the diaper of a 6 days old baby clamp the little baby's feet and rape her what would stop such a man from raping a 13 year old little girl??

The quicker we realize that we are living in a rotten society the better for our girls.

*Even at school and sometimes mosques and churches, the girls are raped by male teachers, students, religious leaders as well.*

*Even at home the girls are raped by brothers, uncles, fathers, grandfathers, nephews and male workers.*

Worse of it is even at the police station where the girls are raped right there by male police officers.

My job is to alert you and tell you things as I see them and witness on the ground.

*The truth is the girl child is not safe anywhere so what should we do as parents to help our little girls.*

***-Teach our girls to dress decently. Naked dresses should be avoided by mothers, sisters aunties, maids, mentors and our daughters. 

***Teach our girls to fear the night because that's when most predators lurk around and wait for the victims.

***Teach our girls what is inappropriate behavior so that they know when someone is touching them wrongly.

***Seriously teach our girls some defence mechanisms that have helped several girls.

***Sex education is very important for our girls. *Let a girl child or even boy child know that PRIVATE PARTS are not to be touched or played with, let them understand that nobody is to see their private parts unless their husbands or wives.*

***Teach your little girls not to be trusting around men of any nature.

*When I was growing up I wondered why my mother would make my sister wear underwear or wrap herself in a scarf when my uncles and father were at home, it is now that I realize that our mothers have always known from generations that even family members rape, defile and sexually abuse the girl child.*

We girls in my family dress properly at home without exposure thinking that our male family members are just family.

 *Help protect others from temptations.*

***Don't be careless and trusting for as we speak some mothers are still stitching the wounds of their little girls.

***Don't be that woman who hides such disgusting acts under a carpet to save your marriage or family; think about that broken girl child.

***As a man, don't be that man who undresses in front of a 10 year old girl and without shame commit the act.

***Don't be that neighbor who knows that abuses are happening in a particular house and you close your ears to the cries of a girl child.

***Don't be that Police Officer who takes bribe and allows the perpetrators of child sexual abuse to walk away free.

*It looks simple until your own little girl is affected.*

 *Be vigilant and don't make your child one of the Year 2020 & beyond statistics.*

***Let parents practice the fear of the Lord and how they must not do anything to offend so that the girl child can know how the love and fear of God is practiced!

*No one, I repeat no one can protect the girl child more than you the mother, the auntie, the cousin, the sister,* 

*PLEASE, WAKE UP!!!*

*PROTECT THE GIRL CHILD!!!.*

*IF THIS ARTICLE MAKES SENSE TO YOU, AND YOU ARE REALLY FEELING BAD THE WAY FEMALE CHILDREN ARE BEING MOLESTED, THEN...*

*YOU ARE PERMITTED TO SHARE AND POST TO ANY LENGTH YOU CAN, TO BOTH MOTHERS AND FATHERS ON YOUR LIST AND TO ANY GROUP AND PAGE.*

SAVE THE  GIRL CHILD TODAY!*.

THANKS

Psychology: 8 reasons why parents are responsible for their children's waywardness

1.) Parent who give their children everything they ask for: _Their children will grow up thinking they have a right to whatever they want._ 

 2.) Parents who laugh when their children speak foul language against others, especially older persons: _Children grow up thinking disrespect is normal and fun_ .

 3.) Parents who do not reprimand children for bad behavior: _Their children grow up thinking that there are no rules in_ _society_ .

 4.) Parents who cover up their children's misdeeds: _Their children grow up thinking they can do and undo with impunity; that they won't have to give account of their misdeeds._ 

 5.) Parents who stop watching television because their children cry when they change channels: _Children will grow up without a sense of respect for older persons_ .

 6.) Parents who let their children listen to music that objectivizes women, encourages sex and violence? _You can't sow thorns and reap cotton, can_ _you_ ?

 7.) Parents who give their children money whenever they want: _Such kids will grow up thinking money is easy and would steal when they can't get it_ _correctly_ .

 8.) Parents who always decide everything in favour of their children, whether they are right or not: _Their children will grow up thinking that every correction is_ _persecution_ .

 THUS SAYS THE HOLY BOOK: _Teach the child the path to follow, and even when he is older he will not deviate from it_ .

📢 Please post this in groups. There are many parents in various groups who do not know these things🔈🔈

 *Albert Einstein said* *this* :

"The world is dangerous to live in, not because of those who hurt, but because of those who watch and let it happen."

 *Then, Desmond TUTU also said this* :

"If you are neutral in a situation of injustice, it is because you have chosen the camp of the oppressor"

 *And Martin Luther King said this* :

"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. What frightens me is not the oppression of the wicked, but the indifference of the good. .... then , in the end, we will remember, not the evils of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.".

DADDY, MUMMY: AVOID FAMILY PORNOGRAPHY!!!!

MUMMY!!

Please Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; Opening your legs for your son to see your inner tight & pant.

DADDY!!

Please Don't wear ordinary boxers at home that you sit

down, Open your legs and your 'thing' is dangling and your

daughter is seeing it.

There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom,

just for your spouse.

Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your

house.

It is not your house alone, it's a family house/home.

You are putting your children into sexual bondage through

these acts.i know you may not understand it but,

MUMMY!

Wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your

sons is dangerous.

No, they won't lust after you. But you might be increasing their

curiosity to see the breasts of ladies out there.

DADDY!

Wearing ordinary Boxers around your house in the presence of

your daughters is dangerous too.

Not that your daughters will lust after you but it makes them to

actually see how the real thing is.

DEAR PARENTS!

Let's stop being 'PORNOGRAPHY MATERIALS' to our children.

Raising sexually pure children, it begins at home.'

As parents, it is still your responsibility to build virtue into your

family.

If your Children are not properly groomed, they may never get

to the top in life, even if you the parents are at the top of your

respective careers.

MANNERS take you to where your education can't irrespective

of your status , money or "who you know".

PLEASE MUMS & DADS, take note of what you just read now.

Don't make mistakes that will bring you pain and sorrow in the

future.

Don't say you are not married, you will soon get married,

please put this into practice.

Remember a child's mind is like a video camera, it records

everything as it sees or hear it. 

A replay of it will tell you the

things you have done how you did or say it.

May God bless you and your wonderful homes.

Author: Anonymous

19 ways to fix your Wife - when she is falling apart

Very interesting food for thought for every man around the world 

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Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs to be fixed.

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When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells on Children, can easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see.

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A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her and making her better and happy.

If you discover your wife is falling apart, watch out and fix the following:

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Pic by wikihow.com

1. *CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM*

You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not tell you. Ask, let her talk sincerely

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2. *BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES*

Get to know how her work load is killing her. Regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work, do you know what she does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy.

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3. *BE APPRECIATIVE*

Be mindful of her needs and appreciative of her sacrifices. The work a woman does at home can be too common that nobody will appreciate her for them, this can be killing her. Appreciate your wife

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4. *GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT*

Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer a helping hand.

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5. *GET MACHINE*

Get all the machine needed for her work at home (the ones you can afford). Dish washer, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundering Machine, etc

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6. *BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT*

Be totally involved at home, stop delegating parenting and family life. Don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this business of your life. It takes two to parent. It takes two to make a marriage work. It takes two to run a household. Be fully involved in every aspect of your family life.

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7. *HOLD HER*

Hold her like a lover and a friend. Place your hands on her shoulder, her laps, hold her hands, just hold her and let her feel you.

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8. *JUST LISTEN*

Most men are known to be good talker but very bad listeners. At times what your wife needs is for you to just listen. Do not interrupt, let her unburden, let her talk. Sometimes the best way for a woman to reset is by getting all of her thoughts out. Let your wife talk through her feelings and problems. Show empathy. Listen carefully. Ask questions. Be fully engaged in the conversation.

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9. *BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER*

Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed to be a partner, showing love and consideration. Do not blame, just be there for her. Just listen. That’s all you need to do. And if she wants you to offer solutions, she’ll ask for them

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10. *GIVE HER HOPE*

No matter what happens, don’t ever raise up your hands in surrender. Giving up, crying or weeping will hurt your wife more. Encourage her. Let her know what you love about her. Help her see the good in any situation. Avoid being critical or negative. When she has hit the rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and hope back into her life.

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11. *BE SENSITIVE*

Get to know her mood, get to know her needs, get to know what is needed to be done at home and do them without prompting.

Learn the act of looking around the house and finding things that need to get done. Are there dishes in the sink? What is broken that needs to be fixed? Don’t wait to be asked. Just do it!

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12. *PRAY FOR HER*

Take your time off to pray for her, hand her over to her maker who knows the deepest need of her heart . Let God fix her, you can’t do it alone.

Let God know what you appreciate about her. Ask for his help. Ask him to tell you how you can be a better spouse to her. Ask God to comfort her and help her see herself as He see’s her as a woman of virtue.

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13. *PRAY WITH HER*

Don’t just pray for your wife, find time to pray with her, hug her as you pray together, hold her hands, just talk to your maker together.

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14. *ASK HER HOW YOU CAN BE OF HELP*

Your wife knows what you can do to help her reset, so just ask her. She will open up to you, it may not be what you think, so don’t speculate, ask, She’ll appreciate it more than you will ever know.

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15. *HELP AROUND THE HOUSE*

Give a helping hand around the house. Give her a kitchen holiday for some days, do all the cooking or hire somebody to do it for you. Let her just sit, eat and rest, this may be all she needs,

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16. *TAKE HER OUT*

Take her out, eat out, go to the cinema, go to wherever she will love to go, not where you want, just follow her.

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17. *ALLOW HER TO CRY, IF SHE MUST*

“Stop crying, are you a baby?, will you be crying about this little thing?” This is what most high handed husband will do when their wives cries, what an insensitive word. If she feels like crying, hold her to yourself and let her do the crying while you pat her on the back. It’s a great way to fix the problem.

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18. *LET HER GO ON HOLIDAY*

Sometimes if need be, allow her to go on holiday all alone to free up burden occupying her mind, this can fix the problem as she returns with greater energy.

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19. *CELEBRATE HER*

Let your wife be celebrated. Celebrate her in secret and in public. Talk about her beauty, motherhood, wifehood, support, thoughtfulness. This will make her day.

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*Let the men read and apply....*

*Let the women read share, and forward to the men..*

Daddies in the house, please, read it ooo 

Author: Anonymous