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LIFE IS EMPTINESS

LIFE IS EMPTINESS

This is about you and you alone!!!


A woman died recently. She was a widow. She also had no child. She died in her late 50s. She has been buried.


When the family went to clean her property, they were amazed. She was a hoarder. The type you watch on American and British reality shows. She had stuffs filling her apartment. 

Piles of new materials. 

Piles of expired food products. 

Piles of gifts and souvenirs dating 10 years. 

6 television sets. 

5 new freezers. 

4 new generating sets. 

New gas cookers. 

Kerosine stoves of the 80s. 

All new.  

Expired vegetable oil. 

Decaying bags of rice. 

And so forth. 

There was no sitting space in a 4 bedroom apartment. 

Littered with junk.  


Plenty of stuff was thrown away. Many shared by family members who had no clue on how she lived. I am certain she has  a decent amount in the bank. She was prudent. Almost much too prudent. Bordering on...


Many of us are like her. We can’t give away stuff that we do not need. We pile “junk” that might be useful to anothers. We have clothes in wardrobes all over. We hoard everything we own. Lace of 92, gele of 88. 


Many even hoard love and praise. They hoard affection. No one is deserving of love. No one is deserving of help. When they lose one they love, they cry, because they hoarded words of affection and more. 


Life is meant to be lived. That we will die is certain. The uncertainty is when and how. The wise one lives everyday as the last. 


This is not to be read as encouraging wastage. Or failing to save for tomorrow. 


Empty your barns regularly to the needy so you also can have new.


At the end, the only thing you take with you, is how well you impacted the lives of others and your relationship with God, Nourish that..........


AND DON'T HOARD THIS POST TOO


By Anonymous




This is about you and you alone!!!


A woman died recently. She was a widow. She also had no child. She died in her late 50s. She has been buried.


When the family went to clean her property, they were amazed. She was a hoarder. The type you watch on American and British reality shows. She had stuffs filling her apartment. 

Piles of new materials. 

Piles of expired food products. 

Piles of gifts and souvenirs dating 10 years. 

6 television sets. 

5 new freezers. 

4 new generating sets. 

New gas cookers. 

Kerosine stoves of the 80s. 

All new.  

Expired vegetable oil. 

Decaying bags of rice. 

And so forth. 

There was no sitting space in a 4 bedroom apartment. 

Littered with junk.  


Plenty of stuff was thrown away. Many shared by family members who had no clue on how she lived. I am certain she has  a decent amount in the bank. She was prudent. Almost much too prudent. Bordering on...


Many of us are like her. We can’t give away stuff that we do not need. We pile “junk” that might be useful to anothers. We have clothes in wardrobes all over. We hoard everything we own. Lace of 92, gele of 88. 


Many even hoard love and praise. They hoard affection. No one is deserving of love. No one is deserving of help. When they lose one they love, they cry, because they hoarded words of affection and more. 


Life is meant to be lived. That we will die is certain. The uncertainty is when and how. The wise one lives everyday as the last. 


This is not to be read as encouraging wastage. Or failing to save for tomorrow. 


Empty your barns regularly to the needy so you also can have new.


At the end, the only thing you take with you, is how well you impacted the lives of others and your relationship with God, Nourish that..........


AND DON'T HOARD THIS POST TOO


By Anonymous




Daily Motivational Quote for today Monday 17th May, 2021: Get up, get up, get up!!!

Daily Motivational Quote for today Monday 17th May, 2021: Get up, get up, get up!!!


Sometimes life knocks you on your ass... get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them.


Two things define your personality, the way you manage things when you have nothing.. The way you behave when you have everything...


#Happy_New_Week

#Have_A_Nice_Day_Ahead 

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph


Sometimes life knocks you on your ass... get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them.


Two things define your personality, the way you manage things when you have nothing.. The way you behave when you have everything...


#Happy_New_Week

#Have_A_Nice_Day_Ahead 

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph

Daily Motivational Quote for today Sunday 16th May, 2021: Unless you let go

Daily Motivational Quote for today Sunday 16th May, 2021: Unless you let go


The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.


Be Brave and Take Risks: You need to have faith in yourself. Be brave and take risks. You don't have to have it all figured out to move forward.


#Happy_Sunday 

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph


The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.


Be Brave and Take Risks: You need to have faith in yourself. Be brave and take risks. You don't have to have it all figured out to move forward.


#Happy_Sunday 

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph

Daily Motivational Quote for today Saturday 15th May, 2021: Replace negative thoughts with positive ones,

Daily Motivational Quote for today Saturday 15th May, 2021: Replace negative thoughts with positive ones,


Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.


We all have regrets from past experiences. You've got to learn to forgive yourself, to put one foot in front of the other and go forward.


#Happy_Weekend 

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph


Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.


We all have regrets from past experiences. You've got to learn to forgive yourself, to put one foot in front of the other and go forward.


#Happy_Weekend 

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph

Daily Motivational Quote for today Thursday 13th May 2021: Be yourself, You owned nobody any explanation

Daily Motivational Quote for today Thursday 13th May 2021: Be yourself, You owned nobody any explanation


Don't waste your time with explanations, people only want to hear what they want to hear.


Be yourself, don't change being you for anyone, if they don't like you for who you are then they don't deserve to be in your life. You are you and you can't be anyone different.


If you want to reach a goal, you must see the reaching' in your own mind before you actually arrive at your goal.


#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph


Don't waste your time with explanations, people only want to hear what they want to hear.


Be yourself, don't change being you for anyone, if they don't like you for who you are then they don't deserve to be in your life. You are you and you can't be anyone different.


If you want to reach a goal, you must see the reaching' in your own mind before you actually arrive at your goal.


#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph

Daily Motivational Quote for today Wednesday 12th May 2021: One big risk you should avoid at all costs

Daily Motivational Quote for today Wednesday 12th May 2021: One big risk you should avoid at all costs


Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing.


Nothing of great value ever comes without struggle and hardship.


#Have_A_Nice_Day_Ahead

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph


Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing.


Nothing of great value ever comes without struggle and hardship.


#Have_A_Nice_Day_Ahead

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph

Daily Motivational Quote for today Monday 10th May 2021: Being positive in hard times of life will help you to overcome sooner

Daily Motivational Quote for today Monday 10th May 2021: Being positive in hard times of life will help you to overcome sooner


Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don’t.


Being positive in the hard times of life will help you to overcome it sooner and effectively than being negative about it.

 

 When everything is wrong, fight and don't give up until it's right.


#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph


Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. So love the people who treat you right and forget about the ones who don’t.


Being positive in the hard times of life will help you to overcome it sooner and effectively than being negative about it.

 

 When everything is wrong, fight and don't give up until it's right.


#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph

Daily Motivation for today Saturday 8th May 2021: Some things you copy are problems People are trying to solve

Daily Motivation for today Saturday 8th May 2021: Some things you copy are problems People are trying to solve

 


Husband and wife decided to attend a new church, the husband drives in an expensive car valued #25,000.000.00 , each day they arrive church the husband will alight first, then he will move to the passenger seat to open the car for his wife to alight, 


The practice of opening the car for his wife continued over time, later other women in the church began to envy the woman, accordingly they began to challenge their poor husbands at home for not treating them like the man who opens car for his wife, that after all, the man is rich yet treats his wife like a queen.


It became a serious issue in some families. While women were praising the man , the men regarded him as foolish man. When the matter got to the man's notice,, he requested permission from the pastor to address the church and his permission was granted


He said:


 The reason I open the car for my wife is because the car lock is faulty and can only be opened from outside, it will cost me about #500,000.00 to fix because it has a security chain that connects other systems in the car and I do not have such money now. It is not my normal style to open car door for my wife, we are just managing the car problem.



Some things you copy are problems People are trying to solve.


Author:  Anonymous

 


Husband and wife decided to attend a new church, the husband drives in an expensive car valued #25,000.000.00 , each day they arrive church the husband will alight first, then he will move to the passenger seat to open the car for his wife to alight, 


The practice of opening the car for his wife continued over time, later other women in the church began to envy the woman, accordingly they began to challenge their poor husbands at home for not treating them like the man who opens car for his wife, that after all, the man is rich yet treats his wife like a queen.


It became a serious issue in some families. While women were praising the man , the men regarded him as foolish man. When the matter got to the man's notice,, he requested permission from the pastor to address the church and his permission was granted


He said:


 The reason I open the car for my wife is because the car lock is faulty and can only be opened from outside, it will cost me about #500,000.00 to fix because it has a security chain that connects other systems in the car and I do not have such money now. It is not my normal style to open car door for my wife, we are just managing the car problem.



Some things you copy are problems People are trying to solve.


Author:  Anonymous

19 ways to fix your Wife - when she is falling apart

19 ways to fix your Wife - when she is falling apart

Very interesting food for thought for every man around the world 

____________________


Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs to be fixed.

.

When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells on Children, can easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see.

.

A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her and making her better and happy.

If you discover your wife is falling apart, watch out and fix the following:

.

Pic by wikihow.com

1. *CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM*

You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not tell you. Ask, let her talk sincerely

.

2. *BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES*

Get to know how her work load is killing her. Regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work, do you know what she does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy.

.

3. *BE APPRECIATIVE*

Be mindful of her needs and appreciative of her sacrifices. The work a woman does at home can be too common that nobody will appreciate her for them, this can be killing her. Appreciate your wife

.

4. *GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT*

Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer a helping hand.

.

5. *GET MACHINE*

Get all the machine needed for her work at home (the ones you can afford). Dish washer, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundering Machine, etc

.

6. *BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT*

Be totally involved at home, stop delegating parenting and family life. Don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this business of your life. It takes two to parent. It takes two to make a marriage work. It takes two to run a household. Be fully involved in every aspect of your family life.

.

7. *HOLD HER*

Hold her like a lover and a friend. Place your hands on her shoulder, her laps, hold her hands, just hold her and let her feel you.

.

8. *JUST LISTEN*

Most men are known to be good talker but very bad listeners. At times what your wife needs is for you to just listen. Do not interrupt, let her unburden, let her talk. Sometimes the best way for a woman to reset is by getting all of her thoughts out. Let your wife talk through her feelings and problems. Show empathy. Listen carefully. Ask questions. Be fully engaged in the conversation.

.

9. *BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER*

Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed to be a partner, showing love and consideration. Do not blame, just be there for her. Just listen. That’s all you need to do. And if she wants you to offer solutions, she’ll ask for them

.

10. *GIVE HER HOPE*

No matter what happens, don’t ever raise up your hands in surrender. Giving up, crying or weeping will hurt your wife more. Encourage her. Let her know what you love about her. Help her see the good in any situation. Avoid being critical or negative. When she has hit the rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and hope back into her life.

.

11. *BE SENSITIVE*

Get to know her mood, get to know her needs, get to know what is needed to be done at home and do them without prompting.

Learn the act of looking around the house and finding things that need to get done. Are there dishes in the sink? What is broken that needs to be fixed? Don’t wait to be asked. Just do it!

.

12. *PRAY FOR HER*

Take your time off to pray for her, hand her over to her maker who knows the deepest need of her heart . Let God fix her, you can’t do it alone.

Let God know what you appreciate about her. Ask for his help. Ask him to tell you how you can be a better spouse to her. Ask God to comfort her and help her see herself as He see’s her as a woman of virtue.

.

13. *PRAY WITH HER*

Don’t just pray for your wife, find time to pray with her, hug her as you pray together, hold her hands, just talk to your maker together.

.

14. *ASK HER HOW YOU CAN BE OF HELP*

Your wife knows what you can do to help her reset, so just ask her. She will open up to you, it may not be what you think, so don’t speculate, ask, She’ll appreciate it more than you will ever know.

.

15. *HELP AROUND THE HOUSE*

Give a helping hand around the house. Give her a kitchen holiday for some days, do all the cooking or hire somebody to do it for you. Let her just sit, eat and rest, this may be all she needs,

.

16. *TAKE HER OUT*

Take her out, eat out, go to the cinema, go to wherever she will love to go, not where you want, just follow her.

.

17. *ALLOW HER TO CRY, IF SHE MUST*

“Stop crying, are you a baby?, will you be crying about this little thing?” This is what most high handed husband will do when their wives cries, what an insensitive word. If she feels like crying, hold her to yourself and let her do the crying while you pat her on the back. It’s a great way to fix the problem.

.

18. *LET HER GO ON HOLIDAY*

Sometimes if need be, allow her to go on holiday all alone to free up burden occupying her mind, this can fix the problem as she returns with greater energy.

.

19. *CELEBRATE HER*

Let your wife be celebrated. Celebrate her in secret and in public. Talk about her beauty, motherhood, wifehood, support, thoughtfulness. This will make her day.

.

*Let the men read and apply....*


*Let the women read share, and forward to the men..*


Daddies in the house, please, read it ooo 

Author: Anonymous

Very interesting food for thought for every man around the world 

____________________


Your wife can be dying in silence while still performing her wifely duties. You will need to know her to know when she needs to be fixed.

.

When a woman is always moody, cries a lot, yells on Children, can easily sleep or sleeps a lot, she may be battling with something you are not careful enough to see.

.

A real man will not allow his wife to fall apart without fixing her and making her better and happy.

If you discover your wife is falling apart, watch out and fix the following:

.

Pic by wikihow.com

1. *CHECK IF YOU ARE THE PROBLEM*

You might be her problem, but out of her respect and love for you, she may not tell you. Ask, let her talk sincerely

.

2. *BE AWARE OF HER RESPONSIBILITIES*

Get to know how her work load is killing her. Regardless of whether she stays at home or goes to work, do you know what she does all day? If you don’t, ask her. Her to-do list is probably overflowing with tasks that far outweighs her time and energy.

.

3. *BE APPRECIATIVE*

Be mindful of her needs and appreciative of her sacrifices. The work a woman does at home can be too common that nobody will appreciate her for them, this can be killing her. Appreciate your wife

.

4. *GET INVOLVED BEFORE SHE BURNS OUT*

Don’t just be appreciative, but get involved. The best time to begin helping your wife is now. Don’t wait until she breaks down to offer a helping hand.

.

5. *GET MACHINE*

Get all the machine needed for her work at home (the ones you can afford). Dish washer, gas cooker, refrigerator, oven, laundering Machine, etc

.

6. *BE AN ACTIVE PARTICIPANT*

Be totally involved at home, stop delegating parenting and family life. Don’t be a “visiting Professor”, be an active partner in this business of your life. It takes two to parent. It takes two to make a marriage work. It takes two to run a household. Be fully involved in every aspect of your family life.

.

7. *HOLD HER*

Hold her like a lover and a friend. Place your hands on her shoulder, her laps, hold her hands, just hold her and let her feel you.

.

8. *JUST LISTEN*

Most men are known to be good talker but very bad listeners. At times what your wife needs is for you to just listen. Do not interrupt, let her unburden, let her talk. Sometimes the best way for a woman to reset is by getting all of her thoughts out. Let your wife talk through her feelings and problems. Show empathy. Listen carefully. Ask questions. Be fully engaged in the conversation.

.

9. *BE A PARTNER NOT A TEACHER*

Most men do fall into the “Teaching trap” when they are supposed to be a partner, showing love and consideration. Do not blame, just be there for her. Just listen. That’s all you need to do. And if she wants you to offer solutions, she’ll ask for them

.

10. *GIVE HER HOPE*

No matter what happens, don’t ever raise up your hands in surrender. Giving up, crying or weeping will hurt your wife more. Encourage her. Let her know what you love about her. Help her see the good in any situation. Avoid being critical or negative. When she has hit the rock bottom, be the man who lifts her up, and brings light and hope back into her life.

.

11. *BE SENSITIVE*

Get to know her mood, get to know her needs, get to know what is needed to be done at home and do them without prompting.

Learn the act of looking around the house and finding things that need to get done. Are there dishes in the sink? What is broken that needs to be fixed? Don’t wait to be asked. Just do it!

.

12. *PRAY FOR HER*

Take your time off to pray for her, hand her over to her maker who knows the deepest need of her heart . Let God fix her, you can’t do it alone.

Let God know what you appreciate about her. Ask for his help. Ask him to tell you how you can be a better spouse to her. Ask God to comfort her and help her see herself as He see’s her as a woman of virtue.

.

13. *PRAY WITH HER*

Don’t just pray for your wife, find time to pray with her, hug her as you pray together, hold her hands, just talk to your maker together.

.

14. *ASK HER HOW YOU CAN BE OF HELP*

Your wife knows what you can do to help her reset, so just ask her. She will open up to you, it may not be what you think, so don’t speculate, ask, She’ll appreciate it more than you will ever know.

.

15. *HELP AROUND THE HOUSE*

Give a helping hand around the house. Give her a kitchen holiday for some days, do all the cooking or hire somebody to do it for you. Let her just sit, eat and rest, this may be all she needs,

.

16. *TAKE HER OUT*

Take her out, eat out, go to the cinema, go to wherever she will love to go, not where you want, just follow her.

.

17. *ALLOW HER TO CRY, IF SHE MUST*

“Stop crying, are you a baby?, will you be crying about this little thing?” This is what most high handed husband will do when their wives cries, what an insensitive word. If she feels like crying, hold her to yourself and let her do the crying while you pat her on the back. It’s a great way to fix the problem.

.

18. *LET HER GO ON HOLIDAY*

Sometimes if need be, allow her to go on holiday all alone to free up burden occupying her mind, this can fix the problem as she returns with greater energy.

.

19. *CELEBRATE HER*

Let your wife be celebrated. Celebrate her in secret and in public. Talk about her beauty, motherhood, wifehood, support, thoughtfulness. This will make her day.

.

*Let the men read and apply....*


*Let the women read share, and forward to the men..*


Daddies in the house, please, read it ooo 

Author: Anonymous

COMMON MISTAKES OF THE MODERN DAY FATHERS

COMMON MISTAKES OF THE MODERN DAY FATHERS

By Bisi Adewale 



During the Mothers’ Day celebration in a prison, a Christian ministry visited the inmates with greeting cards they could send to their mothers. The ministry offered to pay for the postage of the cards to their mothers.


All inmates came out of their cells to send the greeting cards to their mothers to the extent that more had to be provided because there weren’t enough for the inmates.

 

They all wrote emotional messages to their mothers, appreciating them for their love, care, attention and support.


 

These are some of the words they penned for their mothers:


“Sweet Mother, you are the best”


“Mum I disappointed you, I am sorry”


“I love you mum”


“Super Mum”


“Mum, this is your Mum of the Century award”


“I don’t deserve you mum, you are too much”


“You sold all to pay for my lawyer’s fees. I don’t know how to thank you”


“All abandoned me, but you are just there. You are more than a million”


Encouraged with the responses of the inmates, the prison ministry purchased a large number of cards for Father’s Day celebration with the thought that inmates would need to send lovely wishes to their fathers.


 

They were wrong. Unfortunately, only ten inmates out of thousands came out to pick cards. Three of them wrote negative things on their cards. Curious, the ministry involved decided to interview some of the inmates about their relationship with their fathers. What they said should be food for thought for all fathers. Some of them said:


“My father is the reason I am here. He is a bad example.”


“He was never in my life. I don’t know him.”


“I don’t have a father. He is late, but he is living in Ohio now.”


“He made me wild.”


“I hate him.”


“He beats my mum regularly.”


“He is an idiot.”


“I don’t like him.”


“He made me gay.”


“I met him for the first time when I was 12.”


“He said he was not my father.”


“He divorced my mother when I was 3. I met him twice after.”


“He is a pastor of a church, but a devil at home.”


‘’We are three boys, raised by an idiotic and alcoholic father and we are all in prison.’’


“Please don’t mention his name.”


“He introduced me to porn. I became a sex addict and rapist, here I am.”


“That idiot slept with my sister”


The following summarizes what mothers are doing and the mistakes some fathers are making. Every father who is reading this should take heed and avoid the common mistakes of modern fathers.


ABSENTEE FATHERHOOD


Lots of fathers are absent from the lives of their children. Millions of children are being raised by single mothers worldwide. It’s a mistake on the part of any man to abandon his children for their mother only.


MIDNIGHT FATHERHOOD


Some fathers are home mostly at night while their children are fast asleep.


DELEGATING PARENTING


Some fathers delegate almost everything about parenting to their wives. They believe their only duty at home is to pay house rent, school fees and other bills. This is very wrong. School fees cannot raise a child. An excellent father is much involved in rearing, nurturing, caring, training and parenting his children. He is ready to attend parents-teachers meetings and he is available on important days in the lives of his children.

 

ORDER, JUDGEMENT SYSTEM


Some fathers run the order-judgement system. They give order to their children in the morning and come out to judge them in the night for any wrongdoing. No love, no interaction, no intimacy and no effective communication.


EXECUTIVE FATHERHOOD


Lots of fathers are executive in nature. They behave like managers at home. Their rooms are their offices. They issue orders which everybody must obey. They have a formal relationship with their wives and children.


CELEBRITY FATHERHOOD


Some fathers who are famous or in a position of leadership and authority are fond of having a celebrity mindset at home. They behave like a tin-god and separate themselves from their children. Some pastors are fond of this too. They fail to know the difference between spiritual and biological fatherhood. They are so far from their children and still busy even when at home. They find it difficult to have a personal relationship with their children.


IRRESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD


Can you imagine this home? The father gets a fat salary but he hardly drops a dime at home for his wife and children. This is an act of irresponsible fatherhood.


CHILD ABUSE


Some fathers, especially in Africa, believe that the best way to raise a child is to beat them and inflict injury. They use everything to harm their children in the name of discipline. Some even use blades to harm their children.


A father made his 16-year-old daughter stand clad on the street to shame her for committing fornication. This is simply Child abuse, not discipline. The Bible supports child discipline, not child abuse. See this:


“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the ROD OF CORRECTION shall drive it far from him.” Proverbs 22:15 KJV.


Note that it is the rod of correction the Bible calls it, not the rod of affliction. Child abuse is wrong, don’t do it.


NON INVOLVEMENT


Some fathers are at home but they are never involved in the lives of their children. They pay the bills and provide all things, but they will never raise a finger. They believe that their wives only are responsible for raising children. This is wrong. A father must be involved in all the 6 phases of parenting namely:


Childbearing

Child rearing

Child nurturing

Child discipline

Childcare

Child training

This is what excellent parenting is all about.


WIFE BATTERING


Modern men are still committing the crime of beating their wives, the mothers of their children with impunity. This is a grave mistake that a father must not commit.


CHILD BRIBERY


Trying to bribe a child to behave in a certain way by promising a reward only teaches a child that they get a prize if they act inappropriately first, and then change their behaviour. If you want them to act appropriately for the first time, a good child discipline alternative is to remind them how good it feels to make the right choices or to simply give the predetermined positive consequence for positive behaviour.


Culled from the book Excellent Fatherhood


Let me add this.

* Always find time to discuss with your children in a friendly manner.


God bless all fathers. Cheers

By Bisi Adewale 



During the Mothers’ Day celebration in a prison, a Christian ministry visited the inmates with greeting cards they could send to their mothers. The ministry offered to pay for the postage of the cards to their mothers.


All inmates came out of their cells to send the greeting cards to their mothers to the extent that more had to be provided because there weren’t enough for the inmates.

 

They all wrote emotional messages to their mothers, appreciating them for their love, care, attention and support.


 

These are some of the words they penned for their mothers:


“Sweet Mother, you are the best”


“Mum I disappointed you, I am sorry”


“I love you mum”


“Super Mum”


“Mum, this is your Mum of the Century award”


“I don’t deserve you mum, you are too much”


“You sold all to pay for my lawyer’s fees. I don’t know how to thank you”


“All abandoned me, but you are just there. You are more than a million”


Encouraged with the responses of the inmates, the prison ministry purchased a large number of cards for Father’s Day celebration with the thought that inmates would need to send lovely wishes to their fathers.


 

They were wrong. Unfortunately, only ten inmates out of thousands came out to pick cards. Three of them wrote negative things on their cards. Curious, the ministry involved decided to interview some of the inmates about their relationship with their fathers. What they said should be food for thought for all fathers. Some of them said:


“My father is the reason I am here. He is a bad example.”


“He was never in my life. I don’t know him.”


“I don’t have a father. He is late, but he is living in Ohio now.”


“He made me wild.”


“I hate him.”


“He beats my mum regularly.”


“He is an idiot.”


“I don’t like him.”


“He made me gay.”


“I met him for the first time when I was 12.”


“He said he was not my father.”


“He divorced my mother when I was 3. I met him twice after.”


“He is a pastor of a church, but a devil at home.”


‘’We are three boys, raised by an idiotic and alcoholic father and we are all in prison.’’


“Please don’t mention his name.”


“He introduced me to porn. I became a sex addict and rapist, here I am.”


“That idiot slept with my sister”


The following summarizes what mothers are doing and the mistakes some fathers are making. Every father who is reading this should take heed and avoid the common mistakes of modern fathers.


ABSENTEE FATHERHOOD


Lots of fathers are absent from the lives of their children. Millions of children are being raised by single mothers worldwide. It’s a mistake on the part of any man to abandon his children for their mother only.


MIDNIGHT FATHERHOOD


Some fathers are home mostly at night while their children are fast asleep.


DELEGATING PARENTING


Some fathers delegate almost everything about parenting to their wives. They believe their only duty at home is to pay house rent, school fees and other bills. This is very wrong. School fees cannot raise a child. An excellent father is much involved in rearing, nurturing, caring, training and parenting his children. He is ready to attend parents-teachers meetings and he is available on important days in the lives of his children.

 

ORDER, JUDGEMENT SYSTEM


Some fathers run the order-judgement system. They give order to their children in the morning and come out to judge them in the night for any wrongdoing. No love, no interaction, no intimacy and no effective communication.


EXECUTIVE FATHERHOOD


Lots of fathers are executive in nature. They behave like managers at home. Their rooms are their offices. They issue orders which everybody must obey. They have a formal relationship with their wives and children.


CELEBRITY FATHERHOOD


Some fathers who are famous or in a position of leadership and authority are fond of having a celebrity mindset at home. They behave like a tin-god and separate themselves from their children. Some pastors are fond of this too. They fail to know the difference between spiritual and biological fatherhood. They are so far from their children and still busy even when at home. They find it difficult to have a personal relationship with their children.


IRRESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD


Can you imagine this home? The father gets a fat salary but he hardly drops a dime at home for his wife and children. This is an act of irresponsible fatherhood.


CHILD ABUSE


Some fathers, especially in Africa, believe that the best way to raise a child is to beat them and inflict injury. They use everything to harm their children in the name of discipline. Some even use blades to harm their children.


A father made his 16-year-old daughter stand clad on the street to shame her for committing fornication. This is simply Child abuse, not discipline. The Bible supports child discipline, not child abuse. See this:


“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the ROD OF CORRECTION shall drive it far from him.” Proverbs 22:15 KJV.


Note that it is the rod of correction the Bible calls it, not the rod of affliction. Child abuse is wrong, don’t do it.


NON INVOLVEMENT


Some fathers are at home but they are never involved in the lives of their children. They pay the bills and provide all things, but they will never raise a finger. They believe that their wives only are responsible for raising children. This is wrong. A father must be involved in all the 6 phases of parenting namely:


Childbearing

Child rearing

Child nurturing

Child discipline

Childcare

Child training

This is what excellent parenting is all about.


WIFE BATTERING


Modern men are still committing the crime of beating their wives, the mothers of their children with impunity. This is a grave mistake that a father must not commit.


CHILD BRIBERY


Trying to bribe a child to behave in a certain way by promising a reward only teaches a child that they get a prize if they act inappropriately first, and then change their behaviour. If you want them to act appropriately for the first time, a good child discipline alternative is to remind them how good it feels to make the right choices or to simply give the predetermined positive consequence for positive behaviour.


Culled from the book Excellent Fatherhood


Let me add this.

* Always find time to discuss with your children in a friendly manner.


God bless all fathers. Cheers

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Daily Motivational Quote For Today Friday 7th May 2021 - Take chances... a lot of them


Take chances... a lot of them. Because honestly, no matter where you end up- and with who, it always ends up just the way it should be. 

Your mistakes make you who you are... you learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Say how you feel- always . 


Be you, and be okay with it. It doesn't matter what any other person thinks.

#Good_Night

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Take chances... a lot of them. Because honestly, no matter where you end up- and with who, it always ends up just the way it should be. 

Your mistakes make you who you are... you learn and grow with each choice you make. Everything is worth it. Say how you feel- always . 


Be you, and be okay with it. It doesn't matter what any other person thinks.

#Good_Night

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph

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Daily Motivational Quote For Today Thursday 6th May 2021: Never be jealous, God is in your neighbourhood


Never be jealous of what God does for somebody else, what God has for you is for you and and He's never gonna deliver your meal to somebody else's house.

If God blessed your neighbour, it means He's in your neighbourhood.

#Good_Morning

#Have_A_Nice_Day_Ahead

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph


Never be jealous of what God does for somebody else, what God has for you is for you and and He's never gonna deliver your meal to somebody else's house.

If God blessed your neighbour, it means He's in your neighbourhood.

#Good_Morning

#Have_A_Nice_Day_Ahead

#Gurusbest_Cares

Lijoka Ayodele Joseph

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Daily Motivational Quote For Today Wednesday 5th May 2021 - You are Strong, Never give up!


You are strong. Whatever this crazy thing called Life throws at you, you can get through it. It may knock you down in ways but there's always a ladder of opportunity waiting for you to climb up higher than before. Sometimes things have to get worse before they can get better. Never give up.

#Good_Night

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Lijoka Ayodele Joseph 


You are strong. Whatever this crazy thing called Life throws at you, you can get through it. It may knock you down in ways but there's always a ladder of opportunity waiting for you to climb up higher than before. Sometimes things have to get worse before they can get better. Never give up.

#Good_Night

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Inspirational: Being happy will make you successful

 HAPPINESS:


Profile Pict: The Alaafin of Oyo,
H.I.M. Oba Lamidi Olayiwola
 Adeyemi III

Being successful will not make you happy, but being happy will make you successful


Change your thinking and outlook towards life, your health, career, love life, businesses etc.


Have only positive expectations, practice positive thinking and visualization, in short change your pursuits and disposition towards life in total


Achieving total happiness in your life should be the ultimate goal, because life itself is pursuit of happiness


#justscribblingmythoughts

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 HAPPINESS:


Profile Pict: The Alaafin of Oyo,
H.I.M. Oba Lamidi Olayiwola
 Adeyemi III

Being successful will not make you happy, but being happy will make you successful


Change your thinking and outlook towards life, your health, career, love life, businesses etc.


Have only positive expectations, practice positive thinking and visualization, in short change your pursuits and disposition towards life in total


Achieving total happiness in your life should be the ultimate goal, because life itself is pursuit of happiness


#justscribblingmythoughts

Femi Ogunsanwo

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