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Husband- A king and Labourer/Commoner

Husband- A king and Labourer/Commoner

By: Joe Eboigbe Esq.


Some 23 years ago I went to my Father's office to collect monies for some school supplies including books. His Orderly asked that I wait that my Dad was in a certain rush but I had to go back to Ekpoma from Benin the same day so I walked into the office. I saw the rush as he was standing to leave, but seeing me he had to attend to my needs. My father is or was not one who would give you money without justification, so he scrutinised my list and I defended every kobo. Suddenly his doors was pushed open and I heard his loud voice..... Morning Sir, it was his Boss, the Commissioner of Police Edo state.


CP: Mr. Eboigbe you must be an idiot 


Dad: Yes Sir


CP: How dare you keep me waiting, are you normal?


Dad: I am very sorry Sir.


CP: I better not get to my office before you....... and the semi illiterate, poor diction, ill mannered young Man with harsh northern accent went on hurling insults on my Dad, while he stood at attention. 


Without looking at me, my Dad said Son wait for me at home.


Seeing the great Alpha Male, King and Supreme Ruler of his household in that state broke me. My journey back home was tormentous and depressing. 


Later in life I came to my own realities that The King must submit outside his Kingdom to bring bread to the table. 


Today's post is not about my Dad, for the old man has retired and he is enjoying his retirement his own way. 


This post is about the Husband - King and Commoner and an awakening in the hearts of those he fights for.



The only place in the world where a Man is truly a King is his home and as soon as he steps out in search of daily bread he automatically becomes a commoner; he begs, he weeps, he is insulted, sometimes humiliated and humbled. He Kneels before lesser Men, demeaned by Clients, Superiors, Customers, Employers etc. All these he takes undignified but internally proud knowing that it is in and by his submission that bread is guaranteed on the table of his family. He knows that submission is the SURVIVOR'S APPARATUS.


When labour is over, he picks himself up adorning his Kingly Robes and returns to his Kingdom.  


When he returns and if he returns, *those in his kingdom* must help remind him, that here is his kingdom where he reigns supreme, as *Husband, Father and King!*


*Happy Father's Day to All the Father's!*

By: Joe Eboigbe Esq.


Some 23 years ago I went to my Father's office to collect monies for some school supplies including books. His Orderly asked that I wait that my Dad was in a certain rush but I had to go back to Ekpoma from Benin the same day so I walked into the office. I saw the rush as he was standing to leave, but seeing me he had to attend to my needs. My father is or was not one who would give you money without justification, so he scrutinised my list and I defended every kobo. Suddenly his doors was pushed open and I heard his loud voice..... Morning Sir, it was his Boss, the Commissioner of Police Edo state.


CP: Mr. Eboigbe you must be an idiot 


Dad: Yes Sir


CP: How dare you keep me waiting, are you normal?


Dad: I am very sorry Sir.


CP: I better not get to my office before you....... and the semi illiterate, poor diction, ill mannered young Man with harsh northern accent went on hurling insults on my Dad, while he stood at attention. 


Without looking at me, my Dad said Son wait for me at home.


Seeing the great Alpha Male, King and Supreme Ruler of his household in that state broke me. My journey back home was tormentous and depressing. 


Later in life I came to my own realities that The King must submit outside his Kingdom to bring bread to the table. 


Today's post is not about my Dad, for the old man has retired and he is enjoying his retirement his own way. 


This post is about the Husband - King and Commoner and an awakening in the hearts of those he fights for.



The only place in the world where a Man is truly a King is his home and as soon as he steps out in search of daily bread he automatically becomes a commoner; he begs, he weeps, he is insulted, sometimes humiliated and humbled. He Kneels before lesser Men, demeaned by Clients, Superiors, Customers, Employers etc. All these he takes undignified but internally proud knowing that it is in and by his submission that bread is guaranteed on the table of his family. He knows that submission is the SURVIVOR'S APPARATUS.


When labour is over, he picks himself up adorning his Kingly Robes and returns to his Kingdom.  


When he returns and if he returns, *those in his kingdom* must help remind him, that here is his kingdom where he reigns supreme, as *Husband, Father and King!*


*Happy Father's Day to All the Father's!*

THE WOUND OF A FATHER: happy Father's Day

THE WOUND OF A FATHER: happy Father's Day


A true father goes through many unspeakable experiences to continue to be a father.


When he goes out daily in search of bread for his household, he sustains many mental injuries he does not discuss with his family.* 

*His wife and children may not be able to stand the pains he goes through if he shares it with them.


The insults from his boss, the embarrassment from his customers, the harassment from his superiors, etc. Yet he can't quit.


Most times, when he gets home, he is welcomed with nags and unending requests. He gets blames for not being able to meet up, or for not being able to be like his fellow men.


Hmmmm! He is rarely appreciated for his struggles and push just to keep the family together.


Some men had secretly dipped their hands in so many things they can't discuss with their families. Some have stolen, embezzled and borrowed so much that they live in inexpressible guilts everyday.


A real father can take anything just to keep food on the table for his household.


An adage says''goat sweats but his hair does not let people see his sweat''. Many men are sweating but no one is seeing their sweat because they have a car, a house, a job,etc.


When it comes to celebrating him, it is done casually.


He may not have breasts to breastfeed, yet everyone sucks from his unseen breasts.


He may not carry pregnancy for nine months, but he's always pregnant with family needs.


He may not know how labour pain feels, but his pains are not physical. 


Tears may not be in his eyes but he bleeds from inside when he has no means to put food on the table for his household.


His shout, hostility and moods are not premeditated, they are fallout of what he goes through. So, please understand him.


May God continue to strengthen ALL  FATHERS


 *HAPPY SUNDAY AND FATHERS’ DAY*


A true father goes through many unspeakable experiences to continue to be a father.


When he goes out daily in search of bread for his household, he sustains many mental injuries he does not discuss with his family.* 

*His wife and children may not be able to stand the pains he goes through if he shares it with them.


The insults from his boss, the embarrassment from his customers, the harassment from his superiors, etc. Yet he can't quit.


Most times, when he gets home, he is welcomed with nags and unending requests. He gets blames for not being able to meet up, or for not being able to be like his fellow men.


Hmmmm! He is rarely appreciated for his struggles and push just to keep the family together.


Some men had secretly dipped their hands in so many things they can't discuss with their families. Some have stolen, embezzled and borrowed so much that they live in inexpressible guilts everyday.


A real father can take anything just to keep food on the table for his household.


An adage says''goat sweats but his hair does not let people see his sweat''. Many men are sweating but no one is seeing their sweat because they have a car, a house, a job,etc.


When it comes to celebrating him, it is done casually.


He may not have breasts to breastfeed, yet everyone sucks from his unseen breasts.


He may not carry pregnancy for nine months, but he's always pregnant with family needs.


He may not know how labour pain feels, but his pains are not physical. 


Tears may not be in his eyes but he bleeds from inside when he has no means to put food on the table for his household.


His shout, hostility and moods are not premeditated, they are fallout of what he goes through. So, please understand him.


May God continue to strengthen ALL  FATHERS


 *HAPPY SUNDAY AND FATHERS’ DAY*

SAVE THE GIRL CHILD: CARELESS MOTHERS/PARENTS

SAVE THE GIRL CHILD: CARELESS MOTHERS/PARENTS

IF YOU KNOW YOU CANT TRAIN AND WATCH A FEMALE CHILD GROW UNDER YOUR ROOF TILL 2O YEARS AND ABOVE, WHY THEN DO YOU GIVE BIRTH TO THEM?*




A week ago a 13 year old girl was found pregnant but she didn't know who impregnated her. But I will tell you the truth, she was raped by someone nearby and threatened not to report.




When Doctors conducted tests on her they found she was not a virgin meaning someone had been sexually abusing her.

Just yesterday another story of 13 year old who was staying with her uncle was found raped and killed.




Listen, If a man can remove the diaper of a 6 days old baby clamp the little baby's feet and rape her what would stop such a man from raping a 13 year old little girl??




The quicker we realize that we are living in a rotten society the better for our girls.

*Even at school and sometimes mosques and churches, the girls are raped by male teachers, students, religious leaders as well.*




*Even at home the girls are raped by brothers, uncles, fathers, grandfathers, nephews and male workers.*



Worse of it is even at the police station where the girls are raped right there by male police officers.



My job is to alert you and tell you things as I see them and witness on the ground.



*The truth is the girl child is not safe anywhere so what should we do as parents to help our little girls.*



***-Teach our girls to dress decently. Naked dresses should be avoided by mothers, sisters aunties, maids, mentors and our daughters. 



***Teach our girls to fear the night because that's when most predators lurk around and wait for the victims.



***Teach our girls what is inappropriate behavior so that they know when someone is touching them wrongly.



***Seriously teach our girls some defence mechanisms that have helped several girls.



***Sex education is very important for our girls. *Let a girl child or even boy child know that PRIVATE PARTS are not to be touched or played with, let them understand that nobody is to see their private parts unless their husbands or wives.*



***Teach your little girls not to be trusting around men of any nature.



*When I was growing up I wondered why my mother would make my sister wear underwear or wrap herself in a scarf when my uncles and father were at home, it is now that I realize that our mothers have always known from generations that even family members rape, defile and sexually abuse the girl child.*



We girls in my family dress properly at home without exposure thinking that our male family members are just family.

 *Help protect others from temptations.*



***Don't be careless and trusting for as we speak some mothers are still stitching the wounds of their little girls.



***Don't be that woman who hides such disgusting acts under a carpet to save your marriage or family; think about that broken girl child.



***As a man, don't be that man who undresses in front of a 10 year old girl and without shame commit the act.



***Don't be that neighbor who knows that abuses are happening in a particular house and you close your ears to the cries of a girl child.



***Don't be that Police Officer who takes bribe and allows the perpetrators of child sexual abuse to walk away free.

*It looks simple until your own little girl is affected.*



 *Be vigilant and don't make your child one of the Year 2020 & beyond statistics.*



***Let parents practice the fear of the Lord and how they must not do anything to offend so that the girl child can know how the love and fear of God is practiced!



*No one, I repeat no one can protect the girl child more than you the mother, the auntie, the cousin, the sister,* 



*PLEASE, WAKE UP!!!*


*PROTECT THE GIRL CHILD!!!.*




*IF THIS ARTICLE MAKES SENSE TO YOU, AND YOU ARE REALLY FEELING BAD THE WAY FEMALE CHILDREN ARE BEING MOLESTED, THEN...*




*YOU ARE PERMITTED TO SHARE AND POST TO ANY LENGTH YOU CAN, TO BOTH MOTHERS AND FATHERS ON YOUR LIST AND TO ANY GROUP AND PAGE.*



SAVE THE  GIRL CHILD TODAY!*.


THANKS

IF YOU KNOW YOU CANT TRAIN AND WATCH A FEMALE CHILD GROW UNDER YOUR ROOF TILL 2O YEARS AND ABOVE, WHY THEN DO YOU GIVE BIRTH TO THEM?*




A week ago a 13 year old girl was found pregnant but she didn't know who impregnated her. But I will tell you the truth, she was raped by someone nearby and threatened not to report.




When Doctors conducted tests on her they found she was not a virgin meaning someone had been sexually abusing her.

Just yesterday another story of 13 year old who was staying with her uncle was found raped and killed.




Listen, If a man can remove the diaper of a 6 days old baby clamp the little baby's feet and rape her what would stop such a man from raping a 13 year old little girl??




The quicker we realize that we are living in a rotten society the better for our girls.

*Even at school and sometimes mosques and churches, the girls are raped by male teachers, students, religious leaders as well.*




*Even at home the girls are raped by brothers, uncles, fathers, grandfathers, nephews and male workers.*



Worse of it is even at the police station where the girls are raped right there by male police officers.



My job is to alert you and tell you things as I see them and witness on the ground.



*The truth is the girl child is not safe anywhere so what should we do as parents to help our little girls.*



***-Teach our girls to dress decently. Naked dresses should be avoided by mothers, sisters aunties, maids, mentors and our daughters. 



***Teach our girls to fear the night because that's when most predators lurk around and wait for the victims.



***Teach our girls what is inappropriate behavior so that they know when someone is touching them wrongly.



***Seriously teach our girls some defence mechanisms that have helped several girls.



***Sex education is very important for our girls. *Let a girl child or even boy child know that PRIVATE PARTS are not to be touched or played with, let them understand that nobody is to see their private parts unless their husbands or wives.*



***Teach your little girls not to be trusting around men of any nature.



*When I was growing up I wondered why my mother would make my sister wear underwear or wrap herself in a scarf when my uncles and father were at home, it is now that I realize that our mothers have always known from generations that even family members rape, defile and sexually abuse the girl child.*



We girls in my family dress properly at home without exposure thinking that our male family members are just family.

 *Help protect others from temptations.*



***Don't be careless and trusting for as we speak some mothers are still stitching the wounds of their little girls.



***Don't be that woman who hides such disgusting acts under a carpet to save your marriage or family; think about that broken girl child.



***As a man, don't be that man who undresses in front of a 10 year old girl and without shame commit the act.



***Don't be that neighbor who knows that abuses are happening in a particular house and you close your ears to the cries of a girl child.



***Don't be that Police Officer who takes bribe and allows the perpetrators of child sexual abuse to walk away free.

*It looks simple until your own little girl is affected.*



 *Be vigilant and don't make your child one of the Year 2020 & beyond statistics.*



***Let parents practice the fear of the Lord and how they must not do anything to offend so that the girl child can know how the love and fear of God is practiced!



*No one, I repeat no one can protect the girl child more than you the mother, the auntie, the cousin, the sister,* 



*PLEASE, WAKE UP!!!*


*PROTECT THE GIRL CHILD!!!.*




*IF THIS ARTICLE MAKES SENSE TO YOU, AND YOU ARE REALLY FEELING BAD THE WAY FEMALE CHILDREN ARE BEING MOLESTED, THEN...*




*YOU ARE PERMITTED TO SHARE AND POST TO ANY LENGTH YOU CAN, TO BOTH MOTHERS AND FATHERS ON YOUR LIST AND TO ANY GROUP AND PAGE.*



SAVE THE  GIRL CHILD TODAY!*.


THANKS

Psychology: 8 reasons why parents are responsible for their children's waywardness

Psychology: 8 reasons why parents are responsible for their children's waywardness

1.) Parent who give their children everything they ask for: _Their children will grow up thinking they have a right to whatever they want._ 


 2.) Parents who laugh when their children speak foul language against others, especially older persons: _Children grow up thinking disrespect is normal and fun_ .


 3.) Parents who do not reprimand children for bad behavior: _Their children grow up thinking that there are no rules in_ _society_ .


 4.) Parents who cover up their children's misdeeds: _Their children grow up thinking they can do and undo with impunity; that they won't have to give account of their misdeeds._ 


 5.) Parents who stop watching television because their children cry when they change channels: _Children will grow up without a sense of respect for older persons_ .


 6.) Parents who let their children listen to music that objectivizes women, encourages sex and violence? _You can't sow thorns and reap cotton, can_ _you_ ?


 7.) Parents who give their children money whenever they want: _Such kids will grow up thinking money is easy and would steal when they can't get it_ _correctly_ .


 8.) Parents who always decide everything in favour of their children, whether they are right or not: _Their children will grow up thinking that every correction is_ _persecution_ .


 THUS SAYS THE HOLY BOOK: _Teach the child the path to follow, and even when he is older he will not deviate from it_ .


πŸ“’ Please post this in groups. There are many parents in various groups who do not know these thingsπŸ”ˆπŸ”ˆ


 *Albert Einstein said* *this* :


"The world is dangerous to live in, not because of those who hurt, but because of those who watch and let it happen."


 *Then, Desmond TUTU also said this* :


"If you are neutral in a situation of injustice, it is because you have chosen the camp of the oppressor"


 *And Martin Luther King said this* :


"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. What frightens me is not the oppression of the wicked, but the indifference of the good. .... then , in the end, we will remember, not the evils of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.".

1.) Parent who give their children everything they ask for: _Their children will grow up thinking they have a right to whatever they want._ 


 2.) Parents who laugh when their children speak foul language against others, especially older persons: _Children grow up thinking disrespect is normal and fun_ .


 3.) Parents who do not reprimand children for bad behavior: _Their children grow up thinking that there are no rules in_ _society_ .


 4.) Parents who cover up their children's misdeeds: _Their children grow up thinking they can do and undo with impunity; that they won't have to give account of their misdeeds._ 


 5.) Parents who stop watching television because their children cry when they change channels: _Children will grow up without a sense of respect for older persons_ .


 6.) Parents who let their children listen to music that objectivizes women, encourages sex and violence? _You can't sow thorns and reap cotton, can_ _you_ ?


 7.) Parents who give their children money whenever they want: _Such kids will grow up thinking money is easy and would steal when they can't get it_ _correctly_ .


 8.) Parents who always decide everything in favour of their children, whether they are right or not: _Their children will grow up thinking that every correction is_ _persecution_ .


 THUS SAYS THE HOLY BOOK: _Teach the child the path to follow, and even when he is older he will not deviate from it_ .


πŸ“’ Please post this in groups. There are many parents in various groups who do not know these thingsπŸ”ˆπŸ”ˆ


 *Albert Einstein said* *this* :


"The world is dangerous to live in, not because of those who hurt, but because of those who watch and let it happen."


 *Then, Desmond TUTU also said this* :


"If you are neutral in a situation of injustice, it is because you have chosen the camp of the oppressor"


 *And Martin Luther King said this* :


"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter. What frightens me is not the oppression of the wicked, but the indifference of the good. .... then , in the end, we will remember, not the evils of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.".

DADDY, MUMMY: AVOID FAMILY PORNOGRAPHY!!!!

DADDY, MUMMY: AVOID FAMILY PORNOGRAPHY!!!!


MUMMY!!


Please Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; Opening your legs for your son to see your inner tight & pant.


DADDY!!


Please Don't wear ordinary boxers at home that you sit

down, Open your legs and your 'thing' is dangling and your

daughter is seeing it.


There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom,

just for your spouse.


Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your

house.


It is not your house alone, it's a family house/home.


You are putting your children into sexual bondage through

these acts.i know you may not understand it but,


MUMMY!


Wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your

sons is dangerous.


No, they won't lust after you. But you might be increasing their

curiosity to see the breasts of ladies out there.


DADDY!


Wearing ordinary Boxers around your house in the presence of

your daughters is dangerous too.


Not that your daughters will lust after you but it makes them to

actually see how the real thing is.


DEAR PARENTS!


Let's stop being 'PORNOGRAPHY MATERIALS' to our children.

Raising sexually pure children, it begins at home.'


As parents, it is still your responsibility to build virtue into your

family.


If your Children are not properly groomed, they may never get

to the top in life, even if you the parents are at the top of your

respective careers.


MANNERS take you to where your education can't irrespective

of your status , money or "who you know".


PLEASE MUMS & DADS, take note of what you just read now.


Don't make mistakes that will bring you pain and sorrow in the

future.


Don't say you are not married, you will soon get married,

please put this into practice.


Remember a child's mind is like a video camera, it records

everything as it sees or hear it. 


A replay of it will tell you the

things you have done how you did or say it.


May God bless you and your wonderful homes.


Author: Anonymous


MUMMY!!


Please Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; Opening your legs for your son to see your inner tight & pant.


DADDY!!


Please Don't wear ordinary boxers at home that you sit

down, Open your legs and your 'thing' is dangling and your

daughter is seeing it.


There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom,

just for your spouse.


Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your

house.


It is not your house alone, it's a family house/home.


You are putting your children into sexual bondage through

these acts.i know you may not understand it but,


MUMMY!


Wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your

sons is dangerous.


No, they won't lust after you. But you might be increasing their

curiosity to see the breasts of ladies out there.


DADDY!


Wearing ordinary Boxers around your house in the presence of

your daughters is dangerous too.


Not that your daughters will lust after you but it makes them to

actually see how the real thing is.


DEAR PARENTS!


Let's stop being 'PORNOGRAPHY MATERIALS' to our children.

Raising sexually pure children, it begins at home.'


As parents, it is still your responsibility to build virtue into your

family.


If your Children are not properly groomed, they may never get

to the top in life, even if you the parents are at the top of your

respective careers.


MANNERS take you to where your education can't irrespective

of your status , money or "who you know".


PLEASE MUMS & DADS, take note of what you just read now.


Don't make mistakes that will bring you pain and sorrow in the

future.


Don't say you are not married, you will soon get married,

please put this into practice.


Remember a child's mind is like a video camera, it records

everything as it sees or hear it. 


A replay of it will tell you the

things you have done how you did or say it.


May God bless you and your wonderful homes.


Author: Anonymous

COMMON MISTAKES OF THE MODERN DAY FATHERS

COMMON MISTAKES OF THE MODERN DAY FATHERS

By Bisi Adewale 



During the Mothers’ Day celebration in a prison, a Christian ministry visited the inmates with greeting cards they could send to their mothers. The ministry offered to pay for the postage of the cards to their mothers.


All inmates came out of their cells to send the greeting cards to their mothers to the extent that more had to be provided because there weren’t enough for the inmates.

 

They all wrote emotional messages to their mothers, appreciating them for their love, care, attention and support.


 

These are some of the words they penned for their mothers:


“Sweet Mother, you are the best”


“Mum I disappointed you, I am sorry”


“I love you mum”


“Super Mum”


“Mum, this is your Mum of the Century award”


“I don’t deserve you mum, you are too much”


“You sold all to pay for my lawyer’s fees. I don’t know how to thank you”


“All abandoned me, but you are just there. You are more than a million”


Encouraged with the responses of the inmates, the prison ministry purchased a large number of cards for Father’s Day celebration with the thought that inmates would need to send lovely wishes to their fathers.


 

They were wrong. Unfortunately, only ten inmates out of thousands came out to pick cards. Three of them wrote negative things on their cards. Curious, the ministry involved decided to interview some of the inmates about their relationship with their fathers. What they said should be food for thought for all fathers. Some of them said:


“My father is the reason I am here. He is a bad example.”


“He was never in my life. I don’t know him.”


“I don’t have a father. He is late, but he is living in Ohio now.”


“He made me wild.”


“I hate him.”


“He beats my mum regularly.”


“He is an idiot.”


“I don’t like him.”


“He made me gay.”


“I met him for the first time when I was 12.”


“He said he was not my father.”


“He divorced my mother when I was 3. I met him twice after.”


“He is a pastor of a church, but a devil at home.”


‘’We are three boys, raised by an idiotic and alcoholic father and we are all in prison.’’


“Please don’t mention his name.”


“He introduced me to porn. I became a sex addict and rapist, here I am.”


“That idiot slept with my sister”


The following summarizes what mothers are doing and the mistakes some fathers are making. Every father who is reading this should take heed and avoid the common mistakes of modern fathers.


ABSENTEE FATHERHOOD


Lots of fathers are absent from the lives of their children. Millions of children are being raised by single mothers worldwide. It’s a mistake on the part of any man to abandon his children for their mother only.


MIDNIGHT FATHERHOOD


Some fathers are home mostly at night while their children are fast asleep.


DELEGATING PARENTING


Some fathers delegate almost everything about parenting to their wives. They believe their only duty at home is to pay house rent, school fees and other bills. This is very wrong. School fees cannot raise a child. An excellent father is much involved in rearing, nurturing, caring, training and parenting his children. He is ready to attend parents-teachers meetings and he is available on important days in the lives of his children.

 

ORDER, JUDGEMENT SYSTEM


Some fathers run the order-judgement system. They give order to their children in the morning and come out to judge them in the night for any wrongdoing. No love, no interaction, no intimacy and no effective communication.


EXECUTIVE FATHERHOOD


Lots of fathers are executive in nature. They behave like managers at home. Their rooms are their offices. They issue orders which everybody must obey. They have a formal relationship with their wives and children.


CELEBRITY FATHERHOOD


Some fathers who are famous or in a position of leadership and authority are fond of having a celebrity mindset at home. They behave like a tin-god and separate themselves from their children. Some pastors are fond of this too. They fail to know the difference between spiritual and biological fatherhood. They are so far from their children and still busy even when at home. They find it difficult to have a personal relationship with their children.


IRRESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD


Can you imagine this home? The father gets a fat salary but he hardly drops a dime at home for his wife and children. This is an act of irresponsible fatherhood.


CHILD ABUSE


Some fathers, especially in Africa, believe that the best way to raise a child is to beat them and inflict injury. They use everything to harm their children in the name of discipline. Some even use blades to harm their children.


A father made his 16-year-old daughter stand clad on the street to shame her for committing fornication. This is simply Child abuse, not discipline. The Bible supports child discipline, not child abuse. See this:


“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the ROD OF CORRECTION shall drive it far from him.” Proverbs 22:15 KJV.


Note that it is the rod of correction the Bible calls it, not the rod of affliction. Child abuse is wrong, don’t do it.


NON INVOLVEMENT


Some fathers are at home but they are never involved in the lives of their children. They pay the bills and provide all things, but they will never raise a finger. They believe that their wives only are responsible for raising children. This is wrong. A father must be involved in all the 6 phases of parenting namely:


Childbearing

Child rearing

Child nurturing

Child discipline

Childcare

Child training

This is what excellent parenting is all about.


WIFE BATTERING


Modern men are still committing the crime of beating their wives, the mothers of their children with impunity. This is a grave mistake that a father must not commit.


CHILD BRIBERY


Trying to bribe a child to behave in a certain way by promising a reward only teaches a child that they get a prize if they act inappropriately first, and then change their behaviour. If you want them to act appropriately for the first time, a good child discipline alternative is to remind them how good it feels to make the right choices or to simply give the predetermined positive consequence for positive behaviour.


Culled from the book Excellent Fatherhood


Let me add this.

* Always find time to discuss with your children in a friendly manner.


God bless all fathers. Cheers

By Bisi Adewale 



During the Mothers’ Day celebration in a prison, a Christian ministry visited the inmates with greeting cards they could send to their mothers. The ministry offered to pay for the postage of the cards to their mothers.


All inmates came out of their cells to send the greeting cards to their mothers to the extent that more had to be provided because there weren’t enough for the inmates.

 

They all wrote emotional messages to their mothers, appreciating them for their love, care, attention and support.


 

These are some of the words they penned for their mothers:


“Sweet Mother, you are the best”


“Mum I disappointed you, I am sorry”


“I love you mum”


“Super Mum”


“Mum, this is your Mum of the Century award”


“I don’t deserve you mum, you are too much”


“You sold all to pay for my lawyer’s fees. I don’t know how to thank you”


“All abandoned me, but you are just there. You are more than a million”


Encouraged with the responses of the inmates, the prison ministry purchased a large number of cards for Father’s Day celebration with the thought that inmates would need to send lovely wishes to their fathers.


 

They were wrong. Unfortunately, only ten inmates out of thousands came out to pick cards. Three of them wrote negative things on their cards. Curious, the ministry involved decided to interview some of the inmates about their relationship with their fathers. What they said should be food for thought for all fathers. Some of them said:


“My father is the reason I am here. He is a bad example.”


“He was never in my life. I don’t know him.”


“I don’t have a father. He is late, but he is living in Ohio now.”


“He made me wild.”


“I hate him.”


“He beats my mum regularly.”


“He is an idiot.”


“I don’t like him.”


“He made me gay.”


“I met him for the first time when I was 12.”


“He said he was not my father.”


“He divorced my mother when I was 3. I met him twice after.”


“He is a pastor of a church, but a devil at home.”


‘’We are three boys, raised by an idiotic and alcoholic father and we are all in prison.’’


“Please don’t mention his name.”


“He introduced me to porn. I became a sex addict and rapist, here I am.”


“That idiot slept with my sister”


The following summarizes what mothers are doing and the mistakes some fathers are making. Every father who is reading this should take heed and avoid the common mistakes of modern fathers.


ABSENTEE FATHERHOOD


Lots of fathers are absent from the lives of their children. Millions of children are being raised by single mothers worldwide. It’s a mistake on the part of any man to abandon his children for their mother only.


MIDNIGHT FATHERHOOD


Some fathers are home mostly at night while their children are fast asleep.


DELEGATING PARENTING


Some fathers delegate almost everything about parenting to their wives. They believe their only duty at home is to pay house rent, school fees and other bills. This is very wrong. School fees cannot raise a child. An excellent father is much involved in rearing, nurturing, caring, training and parenting his children. He is ready to attend parents-teachers meetings and he is available on important days in the lives of his children.

 

ORDER, JUDGEMENT SYSTEM


Some fathers run the order-judgement system. They give order to their children in the morning and come out to judge them in the night for any wrongdoing. No love, no interaction, no intimacy and no effective communication.


EXECUTIVE FATHERHOOD


Lots of fathers are executive in nature. They behave like managers at home. Their rooms are their offices. They issue orders which everybody must obey. They have a formal relationship with their wives and children.


CELEBRITY FATHERHOOD


Some fathers who are famous or in a position of leadership and authority are fond of having a celebrity mindset at home. They behave like a tin-god and separate themselves from their children. Some pastors are fond of this too. They fail to know the difference between spiritual and biological fatherhood. They are so far from their children and still busy even when at home. They find it difficult to have a personal relationship with their children.


IRRESPONSIBLE FATHERHOOD


Can you imagine this home? The father gets a fat salary but he hardly drops a dime at home for his wife and children. This is an act of irresponsible fatherhood.


CHILD ABUSE


Some fathers, especially in Africa, believe that the best way to raise a child is to beat them and inflict injury. They use everything to harm their children in the name of discipline. Some even use blades to harm their children.


A father made his 16-year-old daughter stand clad on the street to shame her for committing fornication. This is simply Child abuse, not discipline. The Bible supports child discipline, not child abuse. See this:


“Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the ROD OF CORRECTION shall drive it far from him.” Proverbs 22:15 KJV.


Note that it is the rod of correction the Bible calls it, not the rod of affliction. Child abuse is wrong, don’t do it.


NON INVOLVEMENT


Some fathers are at home but they are never involved in the lives of their children. They pay the bills and provide all things, but they will never raise a finger. They believe that their wives only are responsible for raising children. This is wrong. A father must be involved in all the 6 phases of parenting namely:


Childbearing

Child rearing

Child nurturing

Child discipline

Childcare

Child training

This is what excellent parenting is all about.


WIFE BATTERING


Modern men are still committing the crime of beating their wives, the mothers of their children with impunity. This is a grave mistake that a father must not commit.


CHILD BRIBERY


Trying to bribe a child to behave in a certain way by promising a reward only teaches a child that they get a prize if they act inappropriately first, and then change their behaviour. If you want them to act appropriately for the first time, a good child discipline alternative is to remind them how good it feels to make the right choices or to simply give the predetermined positive consequence for positive behaviour.


Culled from the book Excellent Fatherhood


Let me add this.

* Always find time to discuss with your children in a friendly manner.


God bless all fathers. Cheers

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