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AND THE CHILD DIED!

AND THE CHILD DIED!

 *To all Parents and Guidance*


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I am sure a number of us have been following the story of the six-year-old boy who was murdered in Kano state on Sunday.


 The child was kidnapped from Kaduna state and taken to Kano where they murdered him after collecting one million naira ransom from his parents.


So pathetic! Is it not? 


But more worrisome are the circumstances surrounding the death of that innocent child.


• The chief suspect among the kidnappers is a neighbor of the late boy’s family.


• This chief suspect sent the boy on an errand to a destination where his partners in crime were already waiting for the innocent child.


• The child went on the errand without telling his parents where he was going to.


• According to the report, the suspects who committed this heinous crime were people who the father of the deceased used to help.


• They killed the boy, even after collecting a ransom from his parents because they were afraid that he might reveal their identity. In other words, the boy knew them.


 *Matters arising:* 


• I will never get tired of warning parents not to trust anybody totally with their child. Teach your children to love and respect everybody but be careful and on alert while relating with people outside their home. Even at home, extended family member, in-laws, domestic servants and family friends should not be trusted, unless tested and proven to be genuine.


• Your child should not be sent on an errand by anybody without your consent. And don’t just give your consent without knowing where they are being sent to. Community life is no longer what it used to be, therefore, be very careful with the people you call friends and/or neighbours.



• Stop the idea of making your child an errand boy/girl to everybody in your neighbourhood. Many children have been sexually molested through that, some were knocked down by a vehicle, while very unfortunate ones like this boy lost their lives.


• For crying out loud, I don’t know why someone should send a six year old child on errand outside the compound where they live. Please don’t allow that, it is not right. 



• If trying to protect your child will earn you bad names from your friends and neighbours, I will suggest that you better answer the bad name than lose your child.


• Understand that no other person can take care of your child the way you do. Therefore, never assume that somebody somewhere is there on your behalf for your children.


• Teach your children to say NO if anybody, no matter who, makes unpleasant demands from them. I talked about this in my new book “The Menace of Pedophiles”. Many children who fall victim to pedophiles were not able to say no when they needed to do so.


• The wave of kidnapping is so high now; sleep with one eye closed while the other eye watches your family members. I don’t know whether you are still comfortable with engaging the services of commercial bike or tricycle riders to take your child to and from school. If I were you, I will stop now.


I rest my case for now.


 May God comfort the family of that innocent child and give them the fortitude to bear their loss. 


 *Shalom!* 


 *©️ Ijeoma Igwesi* 

 *Family Life (Parenting) Coach* 

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 *To all Parents and Guidance*


A profile picture

I am sure a number of us have been following the story of the six-year-old boy who was murdered in Kano state on Sunday.


 The child was kidnapped from Kaduna state and taken to Kano where they murdered him after collecting one million naira ransom from his parents.


So pathetic! Is it not? 


But more worrisome are the circumstances surrounding the death of that innocent child.


• The chief suspect among the kidnappers is a neighbor of the late boy’s family.


• This chief suspect sent the boy on an errand to a destination where his partners in crime were already waiting for the innocent child.


• The child went on the errand without telling his parents where he was going to.


• According to the report, the suspects who committed this heinous crime were people who the father of the deceased used to help.


• They killed the boy, even after collecting a ransom from his parents because they were afraid that he might reveal their identity. In other words, the boy knew them.


 *Matters arising:* 


• I will never get tired of warning parents not to trust anybody totally with their child. Teach your children to love and respect everybody but be careful and on alert while relating with people outside their home. Even at home, extended family member, in-laws, domestic servants and family friends should not be trusted, unless tested and proven to be genuine.


• Your child should not be sent on an errand by anybody without your consent. And don’t just give your consent without knowing where they are being sent to. Community life is no longer what it used to be, therefore, be very careful with the people you call friends and/or neighbours.



• Stop the idea of making your child an errand boy/girl to everybody in your neighbourhood. Many children have been sexually molested through that, some were knocked down by a vehicle, while very unfortunate ones like this boy lost their lives.


• For crying out loud, I don’t know why someone should send a six year old child on errand outside the compound where they live. Please don’t allow that, it is not right. 



• If trying to protect your child will earn you bad names from your friends and neighbours, I will suggest that you better answer the bad name than lose your child.


• Understand that no other person can take care of your child the way you do. Therefore, never assume that somebody somewhere is there on your behalf for your children.


• Teach your children to say NO if anybody, no matter who, makes unpleasant demands from them. I talked about this in my new book “The Menace of Pedophiles”. Many children who fall victim to pedophiles were not able to say no when they needed to do so.


• The wave of kidnapping is so high now; sleep with one eye closed while the other eye watches your family members. I don’t know whether you are still comfortable with engaging the services of commercial bike or tricycle riders to take your child to and from school. If I were you, I will stop now.


I rest my case for now.


 May God comfort the family of that innocent child and give them the fortitude to bear their loss. 


 *Shalom!* 


 *©️ Ijeoma Igwesi* 

 *Family Life (Parenting) Coach* 

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NIGERIA: 52 YRS OLD MAN ARRESTED FOR DEFILING 10 YRS OLD GIRL AND HIS OWN DAUGHTERS TOO

NIGERIA: 52 YRS OLD MAN ARRESTED FOR DEFILING 10 YRS OLD GIRL AND HIS OWN DAUGHTERS TOO

 Report from Ogun State Police Command πŸ‘‰AZ:5310/OGS/PRO/VOL.7/16             05/05/2021



A 52 years old man, Kayode Adeniyi of no 12 Abere ifa street, Ijoko, has been arrested by men of Ogun state police command, for unlawfully having carnal knowledge of a 10 yrs old girl (named withheld).

The suspect was arrested, following a report lodged at Agbado divisional headquarters by the aunty of the victim, who came to the station with the victim and reported that, while her niece went to the apartment of the suspect to ask whether his daughter was the person who mistakenly removed the clothes she spread outside, the suspect forcefully dragged her into the room, covered her mouth with pillow and had sexual intercourse with her. She explained further that the suspect threatened to kill her with knife if she make noise. 

On the strength of the report, the Dpo Agbado division, CSP Kehinde Kuranga, detailed his detectives to the scene, where the suspect was promptly arrested. 

On interrogation, the suspect confessed having carnal knowledge of the victim forcefully, he also admitted that he threatened the victim with knife and that is why she can't make noise until he satisfied his sexual urge. 

Further investigation into the past activities of the suspect revealed that, he has being sexually abusing his three underaged biological daughters before now which he also did not denied. 

The victim has been taken to General Hospital for medical examination and treatment. 

Meanwhile, the commissioner of police cp Edward Awolowo Ajogun has ordered the family support unit of Sango area command to take over the case for in depth investigation and diligent prosecution. 


DSP ABIMBOLA OYEYEMI, PPRO, OGUN STATE POLICE COMMAND.

 Report from Ogun State Police Command πŸ‘‰AZ:5310/OGS/PRO/VOL.7/16             05/05/2021



A 52 years old man, Kayode Adeniyi of no 12 Abere ifa street, Ijoko, has been arrested by men of Ogun state police command, for unlawfully having carnal knowledge of a 10 yrs old girl (named withheld).

The suspect was arrested, following a report lodged at Agbado divisional headquarters by the aunty of the victim, who came to the station with the victim and reported that, while her niece went to the apartment of the suspect to ask whether his daughter was the person who mistakenly removed the clothes she spread outside, the suspect forcefully dragged her into the room, covered her mouth with pillow and had sexual intercourse with her. She explained further that the suspect threatened to kill her with knife if she make noise. 

On the strength of the report, the Dpo Agbado division, CSP Kehinde Kuranga, detailed his detectives to the scene, where the suspect was promptly arrested. 

On interrogation, the suspect confessed having carnal knowledge of the victim forcefully, he also admitted that he threatened the victim with knife and that is why she can't make noise until he satisfied his sexual urge. 

Further investigation into the past activities of the suspect revealed that, he has being sexually abusing his three underaged biological daughters before now which he also did not denied. 

The victim has been taken to General Hospital for medical examination and treatment. 

Meanwhile, the commissioner of police cp Edward Awolowo Ajogun has ordered the family support unit of Sango area command to take over the case for in depth investigation and diligent prosecution. 


DSP ABIMBOLA OYEYEMI, PPRO, OGUN STATE POLICE COMMAND.

PAEDOPHILES: HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER AND WHERE YOUR CHILD CAN BE SEXUALLY ABUSED

PAEDOPHILES: HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER AND WHERE YOUR CHILD CAN BE SEXUALLY ABUSED


Almost all of us has read or heard about how a young girl of 14yrs old has been defiled by a popular actor among many othe rape stories across the country.

Whether *the story is true or not*, can we parents learn One or two more lessons from this pathetic story. 


Firstly, We must acknowledge the fact that there are Pedophile in our society. 


*What is  Pedophilia?*

*Pedophilia:(alternatively spelt paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.*


The case mentioned above is *not the first but it can be the last* if we all stand up to our responsibilities as Parents, and understand what a child is.


A child is a gift from God and He expect us as earthly guardians to take proper Care of each and every one of them.


One of our major duty is to keep them away from this phycarist patients called pedophile.

May God help us all πŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌ

Below are children care tips πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡


*CHILD MOLESTATION!*


Child Molestation is also known as child sexual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adult and a child.


According to the National Violence Against Children Survey, it established that *1 in 4 girls* and *1 in 10 boys* experience sexual violence before the age of 18 in one way or the other.


*TYPES OF MOLESTATION:*

-Defilement

-Rape

-Fingering

-Making a child watch pornography

-Exposing the genital to kids

-Indecent touching

-Fondling etc


*WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?*

*ANYBODY*

Studies show that over *95%* of sexually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child's family.


*ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS.*

They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members, lesson teachers, neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school teachers , teachers, mummy's friend, daddy's friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.

Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because, there is no case of any of the above that has not happened.


*CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*

Parental negligence, carelessness, non- challant attitude.

It is as bad as *No one can be trusted.*

We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.


*OTHER CAUSES:*

Absentee parents.

Parents who do not observe.

When the kids are not informed.....

What you watch with your kids.

Indecent dressing by our children.


*WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?*

✓On your bed

✓Right under your nose, under your roof

✓In the school environment- class, toilet etc

✓Hostel 

✓Parties

✓In their room (siblings)

✓Deserted/Abandoned places

✓ When you are distracted etc.


Perpetrators look for opportunities.

 *5mins is enough to cause a life long damage.*


*HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?*

1.Grooming

2.Baits

a. Emotional bait

b. Gift bait

c. Financial bait

d. Familiarity & Respect bait.

3. Child grooming

Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse. -Wikipedia-

Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having sex relationship with them.


*HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER:*

A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa

B. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights the abuser or when the abuser is around.

C. Easily and conveniently accept to care for your child while you are away.

D. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his *moves.*


If any of the above is observed, please, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable/rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.


*Sexual abuse happens among sibblings, set rules, separate their rooms, separate their beds.*

*We had a case of twins having sex with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.*


Why should we be that careless?

Because of the carelessness of both parents, their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.


*WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT:*

•I will kill you

•You will die

•Your mummy will hate you

•Your mummy will beat you

•Your mummy will blame you.

•Your mummy and your daddy will die.

•He could cut the child, lick the blood and say: *this is a blood convenant between us, the day you tell is the day you die.*


Teach your child The *SRR* action.


S - Shout/scream

R - Run 

R - Report


*POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED:*

✓Isolation

✓Aggressiveness

✓Anxiety/Fear

✓Difficulty in walking

✓Sudden drop in academic performance

✓Poor social interaction

and so on.


*OTHERS*

✓Sexually Transmitted Diseases.


Their dressing is important, dress to cover them please. Teach them privacy. They must knock and seek permission before they enter your room.

It is wrong to bath them together irrespective of sex.


 *PLEASE NOTE!*

 *children never lie about abuse* If your child tells you someone is trying to mess  with him or her.... Please believe the child and respond appropriately.


*EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*

-The abused child could become a *serial* abuser

-Depression

-Suicidal thoughts

-Stigma

-Guilt

-Lifelong psychological trauma

-Aggression

-Withdrawn

-Infected with STDs

Etc


*THE BOYS*

More often than not,we pay more attention to the girls than the boys.

With my years of experience, boys are mostly victims- anal sex but because we *do not pay attention.*

For them, healing is a terrible process.


*WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS* 

Something might just be happening and you perceive  not. Do not be a *hard* mum. Strike a balance between love and discipline.

Give your children Sex Education proportional to their age. A child of age 2 or even less is due for Sex Eduacation.

Tell them what nobody must do with their body.

Tell them to *speak out.*

In the house, everyone must respect one another's privacy.


*Child molestation is real, it is more painful if it happens under your very nose.*

*Please bond more with our Jewels, we want to receive them back to school bigger and better than they left. Above all, pray for them always. The child molesters will not go near them but we must play our part*


Thank you all.


Keep staying safe. 😷


Almost all of us has read or heard about how a young girl of 14yrs old has been defiled by a popular actor among many othe rape stories across the country.

Whether *the story is true or not*, can we parents learn One or two more lessons from this pathetic story. 


Firstly, We must acknowledge the fact that there are Pedophile in our society. 


*What is  Pedophilia?*

*Pedophilia:(alternatively spelt paedophilia) is a psychiatric disorder in which an adult or older adolescent experiences a primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent children.*


The case mentioned above is *not the first but it can be the last* if we all stand up to our responsibilities as Parents, and understand what a child is.


A child is a gift from God and He expect us as earthly guardians to take proper Care of each and every one of them.


One of our major duty is to keep them away from this phycarist patients called pedophile.

May God help us all πŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌπŸ™πŸΌ

Below are children care tips πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡


*CHILD MOLESTATION!*


Child Molestation is also known as child sexual abuse. It is a secret crime involving a range of indecent sexual activities between an adult and a child.


According to the National Violence Against Children Survey, it established that *1 in 4 girls* and *1 in 10 boys* experience sexual violence before the age of 18 in one way or the other.


*TYPES OF MOLESTATION:*

-Defilement

-Rape

-Fingering

-Making a child watch pornography

-Exposing the genital to kids

-Indecent touching

-Fondling etc


*WHO COULD ABUSE YOUR CHILD?*

*ANYBODY*

Studies show that over *95%* of sexually abused children are abused by persons known or close to the child or the child's family.


*ABUSERS ARE MOSTLY NOT STRANGERS.*

They are right there in your house, co-tenants, family members, lesson teachers, neighbours. Their friends in school, hostel, classmates,class/school teachers, cousins, uncles, nephew, niece, fathers, step fathers, grand fathers, imams, choir masters, pastors, confidants, security guard, maids, family /school drivers, After school teachers , teachers, mummy's friend, daddy's friend, caregivers, strangers........ the list can go on.

Please, do not ask if any of the above is possible because, there is no case of any of the above that has not happened.


*CAUSES OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*

Parental negligence, carelessness, non- challant attitude.

It is as bad as *No one can be trusted.*

We have a child presently carrying a baby that belongs to her father.


*OTHER CAUSES:*

Absentee parents.

Parents who do not observe.

When the kids are not informed.....

What you watch with your kids.

Indecent dressing by our children.


*WHERE CAN YOUR CHILD BE SEXUALLY ABUSED?*

✓On your bed

✓Right under your nose, under your roof

✓In the school environment- class, toilet etc

✓Hostel 

✓Parties

✓In their room (siblings)

✓Deserted/Abandoned places

✓ When you are distracted etc.


Perpetrators look for opportunities.

 *5mins is enough to cause a life long damage.*


*HOW DO PAEDOPHILES GET THE VICTIMS?*

1.Grooming

2.Baits

a. Emotional bait

b. Gift bait

c. Financial bait

d. Familiarity & Respect bait.

3. Child grooming

Befriending and establishing an emotional connection with a child, and sometimes the family, to lower the child's inhibitions with the objective of sexual abuse. -Wikipedia-

Gaining the trust of a minor with the intention of having sex relationship with them.


*HOW TO IDENTIFY A POSSIBLE ABUSER:*

A. Always trying to be around your child or vice versa

B. Child feels uncomfortable when he/she sights the abuser or when the abuser is around.

C. Easily and conveniently accept to care for your child while you are away.

D. Can be hard on the child especially if the child is rejecting his *moves.*


If any of the above is observed, please, shine your eyes. Or sometimes, your child might feel uncomfortable/rejecting to go to the person when you send him or her Or even go for holiday.


*Sexual abuse happens among sibblings, set rules, separate their rooms, separate their beds.*

*We had a case of twins having sex with each other. When they were asked, they said: we see mum and dad do same.*


Why should we be that careless?

Because of the carelessness of both parents, their innocent minds were polluted and their lives were destroyed.


*WHAT A PERPETRATOR SAYS TO A CHILD WILLING TO SPEAK OUT:*

•I will kill you

•You will die

•Your mummy will hate you

•Your mummy will beat you

•Your mummy will blame you.

•Your mummy and your daddy will die.

•He could cut the child, lick the blood and say: *this is a blood convenant between us, the day you tell is the day you die.*


Teach your child The *SRR* action.


S - Shout/scream

R - Run 

R - Report


*POSSIBLE SIGNS THAT YOUR CHILD HAS BEEN ABUSED:*

✓Isolation

✓Aggressiveness

✓Anxiety/Fear

✓Difficulty in walking

✓Sudden drop in academic performance

✓Poor social interaction

and so on.


*OTHERS*

✓Sexually Transmitted Diseases.


Their dressing is important, dress to cover them please. Teach them privacy. They must knock and seek permission before they enter your room.

It is wrong to bath them together irrespective of sex.


 *PLEASE NOTE!*

 *children never lie about abuse* If your child tells you someone is trying to mess  with him or her.... Please believe the child and respond appropriately.


*EFFECT OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE*

-The abused child could become a *serial* abuser

-Depression

-Suicidal thoughts

-Stigma

-Guilt

-Lifelong psychological trauma

-Aggression

-Withdrawn

-Infected with STDs

Etc


*THE BOYS*

More often than not,we pay more attention to the girls than the boys.

With my years of experience, boys are mostly victims- anal sex but because we *do not pay attention.*

For them, healing is a terrible process.


*WATCH OVER YOUR BOYS* 

Something might just be happening and you perceive  not. Do not be a *hard* mum. Strike a balance between love and discipline.

Give your children Sex Education proportional to their age. A child of age 2 or even less is due for Sex Eduacation.

Tell them what nobody must do with their body.

Tell them to *speak out.*

In the house, everyone must respect one another's privacy.


*Child molestation is real, it is more painful if it happens under your very nose.*

*Please bond more with our Jewels, we want to receive them back to school bigger and better than they left. Above all, pray for them always. The child molesters will not go near them but we must play our part*


Thank you all.


Keep staying safe. 😷

NIGERIA: LAGOS POLICE ARREST, INVESTIGATE POPULAR NOLLYHOOD ACTOR BABA IJESA FOR DEFILEMENT

NIGERIA: LAGOS POLICE ARREST, INVESTIGATE POPULAR NOLLYHOOD ACTOR BABA IJESA FOR DEFILEMENT


The Lagos State Police Command has arrested one Olarenwaju James 'm' 48, aka Baba Ijesha, popular Nollyhood actor for defiling a minor


The case of defilement was reported on 19th April, 2021 by one Princess Adekola Adekanya 'f' at Sabo Police Station and transferred to the Gender Unit of the State CID, Panti, Yaba Lagos for proper investigation


Based on preliminary findings, the suspect started sexually assaulting the victim, 14 years, since she was 7 year old. The suspect confessed to the crime and was also captured by a CCTV camera in the house of the complainant. 


The Commissioner of Police,Lagos State, CP Hakeem Odumosu, has ordered for proper investigation as he promised to do justice in the matter. 


CSP OLUMUYIWA ADEJOBI 

POLICE PUBLIC RELATIONS OFFICER 

LAGOS STATE COMMAND 

IKEJA-LAGOS 

22ND APRIL, 2021


The Lagos State Police Command has arrested one Olarenwaju James 'm' 48, aka Baba Ijesha, popular Nollyhood actor for defiling a minor


The case of defilement was reported on 19th April, 2021 by one Princess Adekola Adekanya 'f' at Sabo Police Station and transferred to the Gender Unit of the State CID, Panti, Yaba Lagos for proper investigation


Based on preliminary findings, the suspect started sexually assaulting the victim, 14 years, since she was 7 year old. The suspect confessed to the crime and was also captured by a CCTV camera in the house of the complainant. 


The Commissioner of Police,Lagos State, CP Hakeem Odumosu, has ordered for proper investigation as he promised to do justice in the matter. 


CSP OLUMUYIWA ADEJOBI 

POLICE PUBLIC RELATIONS OFFICER 

LAGOS STATE COMMAND 

IKEJA-LAGOS 

22ND APRIL, 2021

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